Dating, Sex & Relationship Coaching
• Identify Patterns
• Get Out There
• Date Healthier
• Identify Red Flags
• Getting Physical
• Establish a Conscious Relationship
• Learn to form Boundaries
Starting to date or beginning a new relationship can be both exciting and daunting. In either case, the process can provide an opportunity to grow as an individual and set the foundation to an authentic and loving relationship.
Dating, Sex, & New Relationships
We are relational and social beings. Our relationships and connections to others are one of the principal ways people find safety, care, touch, emotional support, and fulfillment in life. These relationships aren’t limited to intimate partners, but can be extended to friends, family members, and acquaintances. Each of these relationships differs in the problems that can arise. Further complicating these relationships are the variety of ways people approach them.
Getting Out There
Many individuals may feel uncomfortable joining or getting back into the dating pond. Some may feel inadequate, discouraged, or uncomfortable. The mere idea may be anxiety provoking and may put into question their sense of self. Dating may also be a way of turning a new relational page, finally closing the chapter on an old love. A new date could bring hope and optimism, which may feel great, but may also palliate the grief, or pain which has perhaps not yet been explored.
The way we communicate with others and ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives.
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When it comes to dating or learning how to connect with a stranger, it can seem like a daunting endeavor. Some individuals may be more comfortable in new settings, while others prefer the presence of others who in some ways may feel more familiar. Symbolically, nearly everyone we meet demonstrates some aspects of what we know or what may feel somewhat foreign. Most of us prefer to align with those who seem more familiar even if certain dynamics may be unhealthy to us. In this sense, your new date may remind us of a warm and happy holiday, but at other times, we may be able to identify that the holiday was not really all that great. Behind the decorations, music, and food, which may have seemed appropriate, you may have noticed that the family may have been fairly liberal with their drinks revealing some underlying dynamics which we may internally feel compelled to solve. Other times, we may notice that the holiday distractors can feel empty, underwhelming, or uncomfortable making us want to run without truly understanding why. Dating can present us with several potential pitfalls and patterns which often lead us to wonder why we always end up with the “wrong type of person.” Until we break free from our story, we may not ever be able to embrace a healthy relationship.
In establishing any new relationship or dating protocol, there are also problems associated with boundaries. Identifying, communicating, and holding to the boundaries you set can be very difficult. Likewise, understanding and respecting a potential partner’s boundaries can also be complex and feel somewhat rejecting. Getting to the bottom of both dynamics requires communication and awareness of the boundaries. Individuals in therapy often explore the importance of boundaries, how to set them, enforce them and create the necessary space for them. These skills may not come easily to most but are in fact indispensable in any mature and loving relationship.
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What is different about Love Discovery Institute?Unlike most clinics and therapists that focus on symptom relief, our therapists deliver specialized treatments which aim to ameliorate our concerns at the heart of the problem. Through this process, we gain insight, identify patterns, and improve our understanding of our psychological defenses which may affect our life and our relationships. This also promotes long-term change and keeps us from the cyclical problems that can otherwise consume our world. Through the process of our highly-focused therapies, our therapists will generally help individuals explore their past, show them how it lives in the present, and outline a plan to move forward in healthier, more authentic, and more loving ways.
What type of therapies do you offer?Whether you are seeking individual or couples therapy, we believe that at our core, we are relational beings. We experience life around others and integrate healing and connection through this very lens. Although we offer a wide spectrum of modalities including humanistic, integrative, psychodynamic, analytic, existential, narrative, and various cognitive behavioral therapies, we've adopted these orientations around the relational space. In addition, within these frameworks, we incorporate a number of tools or interventions that help support healing, promote growth, and redefine our narratives. Finding a therapist does not have be hard. Our we proudly offer our services throughout Miami-Dade including Miami, Coral Gables, Brickell, Doral, Pinecrest, and Miami Beach. We also offer Telehealth mental health services throughout Florida.
Do you take insurance?Yes. We are in-network with the following insurance providers: • United (Oscar, Optum) • Aetna (Oxford) If you have coverage with other insurance providers, you may still have significant coverage. If you carry a PPO insurance plan, you may qualify for up to 75% of your sessions to be reimbursed by your insurance company. If your therapist does not take coverage, it may be because they may focus specialized treatments. Insurance provides quality access to medication management or generalized treatments, but once a certain level of care is desired, insurance companies may not cover it. To help explain this, you may find that your nearby service-center can manage your car's oil change, but if you have an electrical problem, you'll need to take your vehicle to specialist or the vehicle's dealership. Similarly, you may go to the local salon chain, but you may not go there if you are attending a wedding. Depending on the situation, therapy may require a more experienced level of care. Saving a marriage or dealing with an infidelity requires an extremely delicate touch. It is critical that matters like these are best addressed with the help of an expert. Other reasons why some may choose to self-pay or use their out-of-network policy: • Insurance companies often want the clinical notes about your sessions. We strongly believe that thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and your personal disclosures should be kept solely between you and your therapist. If you don't want third-parties knowing business, you may want to self-pay or opt to use your out-of network coverage. • Insurance companies attempt to pay as little as possible for your care. Every session is essentially an expense against their revenue generated by your premium. Unfortunately, this forces providers to take on a broad variety of cases and discourages therapists from specialize in any one area. In order to make ends meet, therapist also have to take on extremely high caseloads which affects their ability to effectively treat, conceptualize cases, continue their education, or even manage their own self-care. This ultimately can have a huge impact on your care. • Insurance companies direct the terms of your care. They are notorious for shortening or limiting treatment. They may force a therapeutic alteration which can force you to switch therapist even after you've developed a strong therapeutic relationship with them. When you need them most, you may find that after a certain number of sessions, your insurance company may decide what is best for you. • Some treatments are limited or are simply not covered by insurance policies. For example, sex therapy is generally not covered. Although sex is deeply intertwined into our emotional and psychological functioning, insurance companies may only cover the medical aspect.
How can therapy help?Therapy is for everyone! Having a neutral, but supportive figure in your life helps you identify your blindsides and attain more love and equanimity. An experienced therapist can help you process your emotions, review your past, outline your future, and develop strong and effective skills to address any challenges you may face. Just like a coach helps an athlete optimize their game, a therapist can help you optimize your life. • Improve relationships and interpersonal communication. • Learn about your family dynamics and see how they affect your current relationships. • Identify unhealthy patterns and behaviors in your life. • Learn new tools to solve everyday or longstanding problems. • Process and heal from difficult emotions and/or events. • Grow into a more grounded and authentic being. • Raise your emotional IQ and improve your influence and connection. • Learn how to manage life transitions. • Find more purpose and love in your life.
How long does therapy take?Therapy is a process and can vary in time and scope. Like beginning a new workout or dietary regimen, results are highly unlikely after a couple of sessions. It will take time to see results. Your openness, level of commitment, and work in-between your sessions will help you accelerate your progress. If this is your first time, give yourself at least 3 months of weekly sessions to get your feet wet. Some individuals find relief, support, or stabilize a critical event that may have occurred within their relationship. Therapeutically, this only scratches the surface but allows for a strong foundation to begin to take place. Therapies lasting over 3 months really begin to go more in-depth. By this time, the therapeutic relationship fosters trust and the necessary content for individuals to step into a new realm. If you've been doing your work, you'll be building on concepts and putting things into place. Depending on your particular situation, changes may vary. Some situations such as infidelities, those on the brink of a separation, or those who have experienced a traumatic events tend to need at least this much time to begin seeing change. Many individuals enter and remain in therapy for many months or even years. They keep their therapist in their pocket and continue to embrace personal healing or growth. Individuals extending therapy for longer periods fine-tune their life experience and can become masters of their world. Mileage does vary, but significant changes should be expected.
Are my sessions confidential?Your sessions are completely confidential and are maintained between you and your therapist. We know how sensitive our thoughts and behaviors can be and believe that all conversations and feelings are welcomed. Although there are some limits to confidentiality, such as potential harm to self or others, abuse of children or vulnerable populations, we encourage everyone to talk about what is going on in their life. Don't worry, we've heard it all.
How do I get started?You can simply click on the appointments tab to see the price and availability of each provider. Select a slot and we'll email you our intake forms which can all be filled online. This process generally only take 5-10 minutes to complete. This will also give you access to our online portal where you can access your records and billing documents. All of your information are kept on a HIPPA-secured platform which uses multi-layered encryption designed to keep your information safe. Alternatively, you may also call us at 305-605-LOVE and speak to someone in the office. We can help make recommendations or help you come to an informed decision.