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Alternative Lifestyles

Polyamory / Swinging
BDSM 

Alternative lifestyles diverge away from traditional sexual relationships and may include BDSM, exhibitionism, and non-monogamous relationships.  

Polyamory and Swinging

Unlike traditional sexual roles where one partner remains emotionally and sexually exclusive to their partner, polyamorous and swinging relationships entail certain liberties in which a couple may decide to include others into their relationship. In the world of polyamory, or “many loves”, individuals will choose to be with a number of people either romantically, intimately, or sexually, also known as swinging while they are involved with others, perhaps a primary partner at the same time. For those in poly relationships, consensual dating of others may be welcomed. Some individuals may choose to engage in open relationships or choose to share partners in order to connect with others for emotional intimacy or sexual needs. Some relationships can remain superficial while others can be profoundly meaningful.
 

Trouble in Paradise

While many partners are able to manage these types of relationships, there are a large number of individuals that enter into these arrangements and suffer disastrous consequences. These relationships require significantly more communication, emotional strength, and trust. A great deal of individuals often enter these relationships with the expectation that the couple will be able to handle them, but quickly learn that the dynamics with others can complicate things. This can be a delicate process since a couple who can’t work through the subtle layers in their own relationship, may find that carrying multiple relationships does not become any easier.

 

For those couples that would like to explore these alternative lifestyles, we highly recommend you connect with one of our certified sex thereapists to fully explore how to have a healthy conversation and understanding of these relationships. Our therapist may be able to help an individual navigate the beginnings of a non-monogamous relationship and provide a safe place for couples to discuss goals for and concerns regarding a non-monogamous relationship. Therapy may include boundary navigation, the potential for jealousy, safe-sex practices, communication skills and feelings of inadequacy or neglect.


 

BDSM

BDSM is sometimes categorized into three categories, Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), Sadism and Masochism (SM). BDSM relationships typically carry an unequal dynamic where one partner may carry a dominant or more submissive role relative to their own. In this sense, partners do need to complement each other in one way or another. They may often play certain roles which may be very different than the roles they may have in their normal day to day life. Partners will generally establish rules for each other and play out their roles in order to gain or give pleasure, or inflict some sort of punishment which can be either physical or emotional such as humiliation. These activities may include the use of sexual toys, blindfolds, restraints, or candle wax. Some activities can also include hair pulling, spanking or engage in restrictive behaviors 

 

Partners engaging in this world generally need support understanding the nature of their roles, their dynamics to each other, boundaries, and how to communicate their desires, consent, or give up certain aspects of themselves for someone else. When properly understood, BDSM can be a safe and rewarding activity for many individuals, but when the practice or dynamic between individuals crosses relational or sexual thresholds, BDSM can be unforgiving. Our certified sex therapist carry specialized training in this area to best support you or your partner manage these interests. 

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