Masturbation Is Healthy - Here’s How It Can Improve Your Sex Life

Updated: May 25


A woman’s manicured hand caresses a grapefruit to indicate masturbation

Masturbation is perfectly normal and healthy and can lead to an improved sex life with your partner

Key takeaways:

  • There’s a lot of stigma around masturbation, particularly female masturbation.

  • Men tend to masturbate more than women, but women tend to enjoy it more.

  • Regardless of gender, masturbation is normal and healthy.

  • It has many health benefits, including boosting your mood, helping you sleep, reducing stress, and more.

  • It can also improve your sex life with a partner.

A lot of us were taught that touching ourselves is shameful and dirty. Unfortunately, most of us learn shame about our bodies and sexuality from a young age. Masturbation is not something that’s usually encouraged – especially for women. There are many old-fashioned stigmas around female masturbation.

While research shows that most women over 18 have masturbated at least once, few admit to doing so regularly. According to a survey on sexual health and behavior, only about 8% of women between 25 to 29 masturbate two to three times a week. Meanwhile, three times the number of men (23.4%) say they do. Regardless of gender, masturbation is normal. In fact, it’s even healthy – and it can improve your sex life. Let’s chat about why.

Get the feel-good hormones going


Having an orgasm gets your feel-good hormones – oxytocin and dopamine – going. It doesn’t matter whether someone else gives you the orgasm or you do it yourself. Studies have shown that for women, orgasms are more intense when they masturbate, whereas, for men, orgasms are more intense during sex with a partner. Over a third of women even report that they use masturbation to boost their mood.


Strengthen your pelvic floor with solo play


Hate doing Kegels? Indulge in some self-stimulation instead! Orgasms give your pelvic floor a workout. During an orgasm, heart rate, respiration, and muscle tone are all increased. The uterus “lifts” itself from the pelvic floor. This can help strengthen the pelvic floor and keep it healthy.


It can help you fall asleep faster


Orgasms release mental and physical tension, which can help you unwind and destress. This is excellent for helping you get to sleep. Some people may even intuitively masturbate at night to help them fall asleep, not realizing that there’s a reason they’re doing it. Once you hit that “O”, oxytocin and other calming endorphins are released, relaxing your body and sending you to sleep.


Masturbation can ease pain


Endorphins, which are released during a climax, are natural pain relievers, so masturbation can help relieve pain. Masturbation has even been shown in studies to decrease the frequency and intensity of menstrual pain.


The body also releases opioids when sexually aroused, making its own natural painkillers. Men’s pain has also been known to be helped by masturbation.