5 Steps to Realign Your Relationship With Your Partner

Updated: Jun 1, 2021

Two fists bumping to show how to bulletproof your partnership

Learn how to realign with your partner to keep your relationship strong

The beginning of a relationship is a happy time. Couples usually feel in sync with one another and spend a lot of time together. The factors that drew you together, such as attraction, shared interests, and common values, are at the forefront and serve to strengthen your growing connection.

But as time goes on and life stressors take over, problems can arise in any relationship. You may find yourself feeling out of touch with your partner or spending less quality time together. It’s normal to feel this way in a long-term relationship and the good news is that there are things you can do to realign with your partner. Here are five steps you can take to bulletproof your partnership.

Get in touch with yourself first

It can be easy to lose ourselves in a relationship. We get caught up with wanting to please our partner, raising kids, or bogged down with challenging life circumstances.

Taking care of yourself and addressing your own needs is essential for a good partnership, though. It is only by caring for ourselves that we’re able to show up fully for someone else. Take some time to evaluate what’s important to you. What brings balance and harmony to your life? What gives you a sense of purpose?

What are your values? These are the tenants that you live your life by and should always respect. Once you’ve made self-care a priority and realigned yourself with your core values, you can approach your partnership from a strong and centered place.

Spend quality time together

Just because you might live with your partner and see them all the time doesn’t mean you’re spending enough quality time together. Ideally, quality time should be a time where you’re focused on each other and the present moment rather than work, kids, friends, etc. Some ways to quality bond with your partner include:

  • Spend time away from screens. Take a walk without phones or have dinner together without distractions.

  • Get out in nature. Having a picnic in a picturesque location or spending an afternoon at the beach or on a hike can be a great way to reconnect.

  • Do something active. Studies show that couples who engage in physical activity together are more satisfied in their relationships.