Meaning & Purpose in Your Relationship

Thanks to dating apps and the continuous access to just about anyone, finding a date really isn’t all that complex. Relationships are inevitable. However, it’s that deep, meaningful relationship that tends to fall into the complex barrel. We find ourselves dealing with the wrong ones so many times, that we tend to have dwindling hopes of finding those deeper meaningful relationships.

What if we can create purpose, meaning and happiness that lasts in our relationships? We can. We always could have.

To answer these questions and many more that often go unaddressed, it is important to understand the shared meaning of your relationship, as well as your relationship's statement of purpose.

What is “shared meaning”? Shared meaning is the culture you and your partner create in unison. Shared meaning is often correlated with the level of intimacy your relationship will have. Simply put, the more united and developed your relationship's culture is, the higher the levels of your intimacy will become.

So, what gives meaning to a common culture in a relationship? Well, it’s the things you both do: Daily habits, how you celebrate events and anniversaries, the rituals you both either adopted or created together and even the foods you both enjoy together.

It’s about the things you both agree upon as well as the things you do not discuss but do in your normalcy together. An example of an unspoken shared meaning is when you nor your partner mention the reason a particular song means so much, but every time it comes on while you are together, you both harmoniously (or even in the most silly way) sing it loudly without a care in the world. It’s those secrets you share and in the way you share them.

Why is shared meaning important?

Simply put, the couples who develop shared meaning, more likely than not, develop higher levels of intimacy. Shared meaning is substance. It’s the core to longevity in your relationship. Now, when you first enter a new relationship, there really isn’t any shared meaning. You’re in an early phase enjoying newness and figuring things out while feeling butterflies. The newness of the relationship doesn’t require shared meaning because you don’t necessarily have a long-term goal in place. At this phase, you are primarily still learning about each other.

When progression takes its turn, shared meaning becomes essential in creating a bond that is far deeper and more meaningful than the butterflies and newness phase. Most experts agree that shared meaning takes years to develop, however, there are ways to make it a quicker process, and this will help your relationship exponentially.