How to Make Healthy Decisions in a Relationship With Discernment Counseling


A couple sits on a couch having discernment counseling to nurture healthier decisions as a therapist looks on.

Confused about whether to end your relationship? Try discernment counseling


Key takeaways:

  • Impulsive decisions stem from an unhealthy place.

  • The mind makes decisions unconsciously.

  • Divorce ambiguity leads to unhealthy decisions.

  • Discernment counseling can provide tools to aid in making decisions from a healthy place.

  • Couples who are on the fence about divorce or breaking up can benefit from discernment counseling.

Over the course of a relationship or marriage, we’re faced with many decisions. There are run-of-the-mill decisions like what to eat for dinner, what type of hand soap to buy, or what make and model of car to drive. There are also tougher decisions required, like whether to have children, where t to live, and whether to take a certain job. One of the toughest decisions you might face one day is whether divorce or breaking up is the best option.

When we make these types of decisions, we typically put a good amount of thought and consideration into them because they affect more than just ourselves. They also affect our partners and spouses.

If divorce or separation is a subject that keeps coming up in your marriage or relationship, discernment counseling might be the ticket to making a decision from a healthy place.

We need discernment to understand what we truly want and what’s best for us. Let’s talk about how to break out of unhealthy decision-making patterns, nurture healthier decisions, and if discernment counseling is right for your relationship.

The basis of decision-making


We make decisions based on a variety of factors. These factors include:

  • Fear

  • Necessity

  • Good intentions

  • Convenience

  • Apathy