How to Calm Depression & Anxiety by Identifying Stressors That You Can and Can’t Control


Woman experiencing depression & anxiety sits on the couch hugging a pillow and staring out her window

How to calm your nerves by identifying your triggers


Key takeaways:

  • The modern world has lots of stressors

  • Identify your triggers to know what causes you depression & anxiety

  • Stress triggers can be external or internal

  • Make a list of your triggers

  • Pay attention to your body

  • Practice mindfulness techniques like meditation, journaling, walking, and yoga

In our modern world of constant social media scrolling and endless disturbing news feeds, it’s not surprising that so many of us feel anxious and depressed. In fact, anxiety is one of the most common mental health issues in the U.S. affecting approximately 40 million people age 18 and over.


Depression and anxiety can be caused by much more than just the news and social media. Major life transitions like going through a divorce or breakup or surviving the death of a loved one can bring lots of stress and sadness. Even more mundane events such as bills piling up, a job interview, or arguing with your partner, though, can have a huge impact on your mental health if you don’t know how to calm your mind and chill.


We talk about identifying your stress triggers and present mindfulness techniques for calming the mind and body.


What we can and can’t control


When it comes to depression & anxiety, it’s important to recognize the factors that are in our control and those that aren’t. If you’ve been working too much and burnout is setting in, you can easily identify this as a stressor that you might choose to resolve by taking some time off or cutting back your hours to recharge. If you’re dealing with a less concrete and ongoing situation that makes you anxious, such as the pandemic or a challenge to some deeply held beliefs, then the causes of your stress might be slightly out of your control.


When the causes of depression & anxiety are out of our control, that’s when we most need to use techniques to calm our minds and nervous systems. If you can’t remove yourself from the anxious situation, you can at least employ some exercises that can help ease the stress.