It’s time for our year in review! Here are all the insightful topics we talked about in 2021 with links so you can catch up on any convos you missed. It’s hard to believe that we’re already a month into 2022. Last year flew by, despite our challenging circumstances as a collective – proof that time does, in fact, still fly even if you are not having fun. With pressure from the pandemic mounting, mental health and wellness became an even more crucial conversation. Love Discovery was host to a variety of important discussions this past year, covering a broad range of topics on our blog. From learning about attachment styles to mismatched libidos and what to do if you can’t orgasm to talking about how discernment counseling can help you make healthy decisions in relationships, Love Discovery took to our blog to sound off and provide answers to questions that our clients commonly have for us. To make it easy to find answers, we put together a roundup in case you missed anything. Take a minute or an hour to gain valuable insight into human nature and relationship/individual issues. Check it out below! Helpful Couples Therapy posts Couples therapy is, as the name suggests, therapy between you and your partner. The objectives of it may vary depending on what your goals are and the reasons you and your partner are seeking guidance. Some common reasons for seeking out couples therapy include affair recovery, challenges with intimacy, and improving communication. Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to wait until your relationship is in crisis mode to attend couples therapy. Healthy relationships require healthy communication. Couples counseling can allow you and your partner to improve your communication and build resilience together. What Should I Do When My Partner Won’t Talk to Me? What Are the Different Attachment Styles and Why Are They Important? What Is Conscious Uncoupling and Why Is It Encouraged During Divorce? How to Make Healthy Decisions In a Relationship With Discernment Counseling How to Rewire a Sexless Marriage What to Do When One Partner Has a Higher Libido Than the Other How to Deal With the Pain of Infertility Breaking Down Your Walls After Infidelity You’re Talking, But Is Your Partner Listening? 5 Steps to Realign Your Relationship With Your Partner Perceptive Individual Therapy posts Individual therapy is also known as psychotherapy or counseling. Many people think they need to be in crisis or struggling with their mental health to attend therapy. This isn’t the case! While individual therapy can certainly help people in crisis it has many more uses. There are many types of individual therapy. Some therapies address specific issues, such as trauma or grief. Therapy can definitely be solutions-focused and help you to problem-solve but it can also be about helping you to make improvements to your life, such as empowering you to make decisions or helping you to develop coping skills and resilience. Sadness Versus Depression: What Is the Difference? 6 Ways to Ease “Re-Entry Anxiety” From the Pandemic Coming Out: Therapy for LGBTQ Persons How Does Narrative Therapy Help Heal Trauma? Overcoming Trauma With Exposure Therapy 6 Ways to Handle Persistent Grief and Loss Breaking Through the Guilt: When You Want a Divorce and Your Partner Doesn't The First Step Is the Hardest: How to Process a Divorce & Breakup How to Calm Depression & Anxiety by Identifying Stressors That You Can and Can’t Control What Is "Normal" Anxiety and How Do You Know When You Need Help? Why Humans Thrive on Physical Intimacy Does Something Seem Off on the First Date? Identifying Red Flags Do You Continually End Up With the Wrong Person? How to Make Connections With Others: Establishing Conscious Dating Relationships Powerful Sex Therapy posts While it may seem like everyone you know has a sizzling sex life, sexual dysfunction is actually very common, affecting almost half of women and 31% of men. There are many reasons for struggling sexually; factors such as physical and mental health, stress, parenting responsibilities, and trauma history can all play a role. If you’re unable to resolve the issues on your own, sex therapy may be a good option. Sex therapy is a form of psychotherapy that allows you to explore your sexuality in a safe space. You can explore concerns such as sexual trauma, sexual identity, performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, inability to orgasm, and issues with intimacy with the help of a sex therapist. Talking about your issues with intimacy may sound intimidating at first – but you deserve to have a fulfilling and satisfying sex life. Sex therapy is one great option to help you achieve that. 10 Reasons You May Be Unable to Reach Orgasm 6 Approaches to Rebuilding Intimacy After Infidelity Trying an Alternative Lifestyle Can Bring You and Your Partner Closer How to Improve Your Self-Esteem and Body Image in the Social Media Era The Pressure of Performance: Erectile Dysfunction What You Need to Know About Premature Ejaculation Porn Addiction: A Look at the Stigma and Treatment Options What Is Female Sexual Arousal Disorder and How Can You Experience Sexual Wellness? Get support from us! Did any of the topics you see here resonate with you? Perhaps you’re ready to seek help for something that’s been an issue for you. Let this year be a year of healing for you! Having the support of the right professionals to hold space for you can make all the difference. Let the team at Love Discovery support you on your healing journey. Whether you’re looking for individual therapy, couples therapy, or sex therapy, the team at Love Discovery is ready to welcome you with open arms. If you’re ready to get started in therapy to help you process emotions and trauma, make an appointment with any of our therapists today. Feeling hesitant about how we can help? Call 786.571.4636 for a free 20-minute consultation. We are here to help you improve your mental health and support you on your journey to discovering yourself!

If you overwork yourself or feel the need to constantly be busy, it may be a trauma response Key takeaways: Edward Khantzian developed the self-medication model of addiction and the idea that addiction comes from the “inability to tolerate one’s feelings.” Substance abuse isn’t the only kind of addiction that people use to avoid their feelings; many trauma survivors use work as a tool to avoid their trauma. Becoming a “workaholic” can stem from a combination of factors, including being conditioned to be a people pleaser, wanting to avoid your feelings, and engaging in controlling behaviors to overcompensate for not having control over your trauma. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is one where people are likely to use being busy to avoid dealing with their trauma. Even if you don’t have trauma, if you’re always wired and, on the go, it’s likely your nervous system is in a state of hyperarousal and could benefit from calming activities like yin or restorative yoga, breathwork, guided meditation, and therapy. Many studies have documented the link between trauma and addictions. Edward Khantzian, M.D. developed the self-medication model of addiction, hypothesizing that addiction comes from an “inability to tolerate one’s feelings.” Substance abuse isn’t the only addictive behavior people use as a coping skill to avoid dealing with their feelings. Many things can become addictions, from overeating to overworking. Those that overwork typically earn the nickname “workaholic.” Recent studies on both survivors of intimate partner violence and survivors of childhood sexual abuse showed that both populations had a predisposition to PTSD that can lead to overworking themselves. There are many reasons trauma survivors try to keep themselves booked and busy. The reasons usually stem from a combination of factors, including being conditioned to people please, wanting to avoid dealing with your feelings, and engaging in controlling behaviors to overcompensate for not having control over your trauma. We look at how overworking and the need to keep yourself busy can be a trauma response. Let’s discuss. A few questions to ask yourself if you struggle with being a workaholic If you’re the type of person that’s always on the run, it may be time to do some self-reflection. Here are a few questions to ask yourself. Do you have unresolved trauma? How do you generally cope with your feelings and emotions? How are you feeling these days in general? Do you get uncomfortable or anxious if you aren’t responsible for any tasks or have unstructured time? If you find yourself with unstructured time unexpectedly, do you immediately try to fill it with distractions, such as scrolling through social media? Do you feel like you keep yourself busy to avoid things? Is your busyness purposeful – are you working towards something, like a degree or saving for a down payment on a home? If you find yourself feeling anxious, exhausted, or showing signs of chronic and persistent sadness (depression), consider that you are staying busy to avoid dealing with something. High-functioning PTSD - Signs and Symptoms PTSD is a disordered response to trauma. One manifestation of it is overworking and the need for constant busyness. PTSD is often thought of as something soldiers get during war but anyone who has experienced any kind of trauma can develop it. PTSD is less about what type of trauma you experienced, and more about how your body responds to it –your body sends signals to your nervous system that puts it into a constant state of hypervigilance and dysregulation. People experiencing high-functioning PTSD are able to live and work but may not be aware they’re going through it. Here are some of the signs you may be experiencing PTSD: Intrusive memories. These memories are generally recurrent and distressing. They may involve flashbacks, dreams, or nightmares about the event. You can also have severe physical or emotional reactions if something triggers you or reminds you of the traumatic event. Because being triggered is so distressing, people with PTSD engage in avoidant behaviors and try to avoid thinking or talking about their trauma. They usually avoid places, activities, people, or things that can cause them to remember the event. This avoidant behavior can include keeping themselves extremely busy and distracted with many tasks, aka becoming a workaholic. Negative changes in mood and thinking, including feeling hopeless for the future, having a negative worldview, or negative thoughts about yourself or others. Memory problems, including blocking out or being unable to remember parts of the traumatic event. People experiencing PTSD may feel disconnected and detached from family and friends, and as a result, find it difficult to maintain close relationships. They may lose interest in activities they once enjoyed and find it difficult to experience joy or happiness. They may feel emotionally “numb” or be unable to identify how they feel. People living with PTSD will also experience physical and emotional reactions called arousal symptoms. They may startle easily or be hypervigilant. They may experience difficulty sleeping or concentrating or display irritable or aggressive behavior. They may have feelings of shame and guilt. If you have any of these symptoms, you should speak to a professional as soon as possible, so you can get the right help and start working towards feeling better. Ways to calm your nervous system If you constantly have to be on the go, even if you don’t have unresolved trauma, it’s very likely that your nervous system is in a state of hyperarousal and could still benefit from learning how to relax and calm down. Everyone needs downtime and rest. Here are some techniques to try that can help soothe your nervous system: Yin yoga: Yin yoga is a cooling yoga in which postures are held longer to allow the stretches to reach deeper. This allows your nervous system to calm down more versus taking a traditional yoga class that has standing postures. Restorative yoga: In restorative yoga, props are used to support you, such as blocks, blankets, cushions, and bolsters. (What a concept – allowing yourself to be supported!) Breathwork: Breathwork relies on various techniques that alter your breathing patterns, allowing you to slow or speed up your breathing. Some specific breathing techniques that calm the nervous system are using a longer exhale than your inhale, abdominal breathing, and box breathing. Guided meditation: Meditation has been shown to have many benefits for the nervous system. Therapy: Going to therapy is always recommended. A trauma therapist can help you develop a coping skills plan specifically for you – and help you work through your unresolved traumas. At Love Discovery, we have several therapists who specialize in trauma and ptsd symptoms. Schedule a consult in Miami, FL or our Coral Gables office. Like anything, learning how to relax is a skill. It takes time and practice to get good at it. Get support from a qualified, caring therapist in the South Florida area Unresolved trauma can show up in surprising ways. Healing it can be a deeply-involved process, and finding the right professionals to hold space for you and support you through it is vital. Nothing can make the process painless or totally pleasant, but the support of a qualified therapist can make processing trauma much safer and easier. When you’re ready to start healing your pain, individual therapy for trauma can be tremendously beneficial. The team at Love Discovery is ready to welcome you with open arms. If you’re ready to get started in therapy to help you process trauma, make an appointment with any of our therapists today. Feeling hesitant about how we can help? Call 786.571.4636 for a free 20-minute consultation. We are here to help you improve your mental health and support you on your journey to healing traumas. Trauma Therapists in Miami, Florida Nathalie Vega Doctoral Candidate MFT Samantha Fuchs Doctoral Candidate MFT

Trust is an essential component of any healthy relationship. However, trust can be easily broken, and rebuilding it takes time and effort. If you and your partner are struggling to restore trust in your relationship, there are certain activities you can do to help repair the damage. In this article, we will explore some effective tips for rebuilding trust in a relationship. From understanding the impact of broken trust to engaging in trust-building activities, we'll cover all the steps you can take to restore the trust in your relationship. Key Takeaways: Rebuilding trust takes time and effort. Open communication and vulnerability are crucial in restoring trust. Engaging in trust-building activities can help to repair the damage. Seeking professional help may be necessary in some cases. Patience is key - trust cannot be rebuilt overnight. Understanding the Impact of Broken Trust Trust is an essential component of any successful relationship, be it personal or professional. When trust is broken, it can have severe consequences that can last for years. Trust can be broken in many ways, including infidelity, dishonesty, or even neglect. The impact of broken trust can vary depending on the severity of the violation and the personalities of those involved. For some, broken trust can result in feelings of anger, resentment, and betrayal. It can lead to a loss of intimacy, emotional distance, and a breakdown in communication. For others, broken trust can result in feelings of hurt and disappointment, leading to a loss of confidence in the relationship and the people involved. It can be challenging to rebuild trust once it's been broken, but it's not impossible. Can trust be rebuilt? When trust is broken in a relationship, it can be difficult to know how to move forward. Can trust be rebuilt? And if so, how? The first step is to acknowledge what happened. If you try to sweep it under the rug or pretend it didn’t happen, it will only make things worse. You need to be honest with yourself and your partner about what happened and how it made you feel. Once you’ve done that, you can start to work on rebuilding trust. It won’t happen overnight, but with time and patience, it is possible to rebuild trust in a relationship. Open Communication and Vulnerability The key to rebuilding trust in a relationship is open communication. Both partners need to be honest with each other about their feelings and concerns. It's essential to express emotions without fear of judgment, and it's equally important to listen actively. Communication should be respectful, calm, and non-defensive. Active listening involves paying attention to what the other person is saying and asking questions to clarify their thoughts and feelings. Vulnerability is another critical component of rebuilding trust. Vulnerability means being open and honest about one's feelings, even if they are difficult or uncomfortable. Being vulnerable allows partners to connect emotionally and build intimacy, which ultimately strengthens the relationship. It's important to recognize that vulnerability is a two-way street, and both partners must be willing to be vulnerable to rebuild trust. Engaging in Activities to Rebuild Trust in A Relationship Once the couple has established open communication and vulnerability, it's time to engage in trust-building activities. These activities can help to reinforce the connection between partners and rebuild the trust that was lost. Building trust in a relationship can involve a number of relationship rebuilding activities and trust exercises for couples. Here are some effective tips for engaging in trust-building exercises: Remember that trust-building takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself and your partner as you work together to rebuild the relationship. Questions to rebuild trust in a relationship When faced with the daunting task of rebuilding trust in a relationship, it is important to remember that trust is earned through consistent and reliable actions. In order to rebuild trust, couples must first identify the areas in which trust was broken and then work together to establish a plan to overcome these issues. One of the most important aspects of rebuilding trust is communication. Couples must be honest with one another about what went wrong and why it led to a breach of trust. It is also important to listen to your partner and understand their perspective. Only once both sides have been heard can a plan be put in place to rebuild trust. Another key element of rebuilding trust is accountability. This means that both partners must be willing to take responsibility for their actions and follow through on their commitments. If one partner is not willing to take responsibility, it will be difficult to rebuild trust. Rebuilding trust in a relationship requires open communication, understanding, and patience. Here are some questions to rebuild trust in a relationship. Understanding the Breach What happened that caused the trust to be broken? How did you feel when it happened? What were the reasons or circumstances that led to the breach of trust? Taking Responsibility Do you take responsibility for your actions? What could you have done differently? How can you make amends for what happened? Future Intentions What steps are you willing to take to rebuild trust? How can we ensure that this doesn't happen again in the future? What boundaries or guidelines should we set to protect our relationship? Emotional Impact How has the breach of trust affected your feelings towards me? What fears or concerns do you have moving forward? How can I support you emotionally during this time? Open Communication Is there anything you've been holding back or haven't shared about the situation? How can we improve our communication to prevent misunderstandings? Are there topics or issues that we need to address more openly? Rebuilding Process What actions or behaviors would help you feel more secure in our relationship? How can we rebuild intimacy and connection? Are there activities or exercises we can do together to strengthen our bond? Seeking External Help Would you be open to couples therapy or counseling? Are there books, workshops, or resources that might help us navigate this? How can our friends or family support us during this time? Checking In How are you feeling about our progress in rebuilding trust? Are there any lingering doubts or concerns that we need to address? How can we regularly check in with each other about our feelings and the state of our relationship? Affirming Commitment Why is this relationship important to you? What are our shared goals and dreams for the future? How can we reaffirm our commitment to each other? Personal Growth What personal growth or changes have you noticed in yourself since the breach of trust? How can we support each other's personal growth and healing? Are there lessons we can take from this experience to become better partners? Remember, these questions are just a starting point. The key is to approach the conversation with empathy, openness, and a genuine desire to understand and be understood. Patience and Time Rebuilding trust in a relationship is not an overnight process, and it requires a significant amount of patience and time. The time required to rebuild trust varies depending on the severity of the situation and the individuals involved. It is normal to feel frustrated or discouraged during the process, but it is important to remember that healing takes time. It is crucial to be patient with oneself and the other person and to avoid putting pressure on the relationship to heal quickly. Conclusion Rebuilding trust in a relationship can be a challenging process, but it is not impossible. Open communication, vulnerability, and engaging in trust-building activities are essential steps towards repairing broken trust. If the relationship is worth salvaging, patience and time are also crucial in the rebuilding process. Seeking the help of a professional can provide additional support and guidance. It is important to remember that rebuilding trust requires effort from both parties involved. It is not something that can be achieved overnight, and both partners must be willing to work towards it. However, with perseverance and a genuine desire to mend the relationship, trust can be restored and the relationship can be stronger than ever. Seeking Professional Help: If the broken trust in your relationship feels too overwhelming to handle alone, seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor can be a valuable option. A qualified professional can offer an unbiased perspective, help you identify patterns in your relationship, and provide specialized tools and techniques to navigate the rebuilding process. When choosing a therapist or counselor, look for someone with a background in relationship counseling or therapy. It's important to find someone you feel comfortable talking to and who has experience working with couples dealing with trust issues. If improving trust with your partner is a priority for you, therapy can be beneficial. Having the support from the right professionals can create a huge shift in your relationship dynamic. Both couples therapy and individual therapy can help improve communication skills between you and your partner. At the Love Discovery Institute, we have expert therapists who can help address trust issues in your relationship. Our therapists offer in-person therapy in Coral Gables, FL, as well as online therapy throughout the state of Florida. If you're seeking guidance and support, please reach out to us at 305-605-5683. Ready to take the next step? Make an appointment with us today. FAQ Q: What are some activities to rebuild trust in a relationship? A: There are several effective activities that can help rebuild trust in a relationship. These include open and honest communication, practicing empathy and understanding, setting clear boundaries and expectations, and engaging in trust-building activities together. Q: How does broken trust impact a relationship? A: Broken trust can have a significant impact on a relationship. It can lead to feelings of betrayal, resentment, and insecurity. It often erodes the foundation of trust and can strain the emotional connection between partners. Q: How important is open communication and vulnerability in rebuilding trust? A: Open communication and vulnerability are crucial in rebuilding trust. It allows both partners to express their feelings, address issues, and work towards understanding and forgiveness. By being open and vulnerable, partners can rebuild the emotional connection and create a safe space for rebuilding trust. Q: What are some trust-building activities that couples can engage in? A: Couples can engage in various trust-building activities, such as couples therapy, trust exercises, engaging in shared hobbies or activities, and creating opportunities for quality time and emotional bonding. Q: When should someone consider seeking professional help to rebuild trust? A: If the trust issues in the relationship persist despite efforts to rebuild trust, it may be beneficial to seek professional help. A therapist or counselor can provide guidance, support, and tools to help navigate the challenges of rebuilding trust. Q: Is patience and time important in the process of rebuilding trust? A: Yes, patience and time are crucial in the process of rebuilding trust. Rebuilding trust takes time, and it requires both partners to be patient with each other's process of healing and rebuilding the emotional connection.

If you’re struggling with issues surrounding intimacy, opening up to a total stranger about it probably sounds really unappealing, but sex therapy is actually tremendously helpful in resolving challenges in the bedroom and beyond. Here’s what you should know. Key takeaways: Almost half of women and 31% of men live with some type of sexual dysfunction. Many factors affect your sex life, including your physical and mental health, stress, trauma history, parenting responsibilities, and other factors. Sex therapy is a form of talk therapy that helps you explore your sexuality in a safe space. It addresses a wide range of concerns that include sexual identity, sexual trauma, premature ejaculation, performance anxiety, intimacy challenges, and difficulty orgasming, among others. Finding a sex therapist who is a good fit for you and the issue you’re seeking help with is important. Preparing for your appointment can help you make the most of your time with your therapist. Your treatment plan will be a collaborative effort between you and your therapist. Talking about intimacy issues can seem intimidating and isolating – it might seem like everyone but you has a satisfying sex life. But, that’s far from true. Sexual dysfunction is actually pretty prevalent, affecting nearly 43% of women and 31% of men. There are many reasons people struggle sexually, from physical and mental health issues to stress, trauma, parenting responsibilities, and more. Sex therapy can help you get back on track if you’re feeling a bit burned out in the bedroom. So, what even is sex therapy? Who can benefit from it? And, what should you know about it before you start? We explain. What is sex therapy? Sex therapy is a form of psychotherapy, or talk therapy, that can help you explore your sexuality in a safe space. Despite its name, there’s no sexual activity involved with your therapist – that would be wildly inappropriate and unethical. Sex therapy can help address a wide range of concerns that include sexual identity, sexual trauma, intimacy challenges, and difficult orgasming. You don’t have to be in a relationship to get it either – anyone can attend at any time. Sex therapists receive specialized training to assist with a variety of issues. Some of the many areas sex therapists address include: Sexual wellness Sex addiction Body image issues Sexual dysfunction Performance anxiety Alternative lifestyles Starting sex therapy may sound intimidating – but it’s far more uncomfortable to keep living an unfulfilling and unsatisfying sex life. Reasons for sex therapy There are many reasons someone seeks out sex therapy. It can be due to sexual dysfunction issues, such as difficulties orgasming or challenges in your current sexual relationship. Areas of concern may include: Erectile functioning Performance anxiety Premature ejaculation Impulsive/compulsive sexual behavior Difficulty with sexual arousal/low libido Difficulty orgasming (anorgasmia) History of past sexual trauma, such as rape Intimacy issues due to disability or chronic conditions Painful intercourse (dyspareunia) Concerns about sexual desire/arousal Concerns about sexual interests/sexual orientation If you pursue sex therapy, your therapist will meet with you to discuss your concerns and develop a treatment plan. Finding a sex therapist If you’re interested in seeing a sex therapist, you can ask your primary care doctor for a referral. You can also check with your local mental health center or your gynecology clinic. Your health insurance provider or employee assistance program is also likely to be able to offer recommendations for an in-network sex therapist. It’s important to find a therapist who is a good fit for you; after all, you’ll be discussing your sex life with this provider, and you’ll need to be comfortable being vulnerable with them. Here are some questions you may want to ask a prospective provider: Education/experience: Request their education and training background. Are they licensed? Are they credentialed by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT)? Do they have experience treating the specific issue you’re seeking help with? Service delivery: What type of services are they offering – telehealth or in person? Do their hours work with your schedule? Treatment: How long is each session? How often do sessions occur? How long does treatment last for the issue you’re seeking treatment for? Fees and costs: Do they take insurance? What is the co-pay? If insurance isn’t accepted, what are the fees you will be responsible for? Once you know what to expect, you can make a more informed decision about choosing the right professional for you. Preparing for your appointment As with anything, preparing for your appointment will help you make the most of it. Here are a few things you can do beforehand: Make a list of medication you’re taking: Include any prescription medications, herbal supplements, over-the-counter meds, or vitamins. This is important because these things can impact your libido. Come prepared with a detailed list of your problems: Include when they started, other professionals you’ve seen about it, and treatments you’ve tried. Prepare important personal information: Prepare info such as your medical conditions or any recent life changes or stressors. Have questions to ask your therapist if you think you need to. By preparing for your appointment, you can make the most of your time together with your therapist. Treatment goals in sex therapy Just like with any other form of psychotherapy, your therapist is a co-collaborator who will partner with you to set appropriate goals for your unique treatment. Here’s what goals during sex therapy can look like: Become confident, curious, and joyous in your sexuality Learn how to improve intimacy with your partner Explore your sexual identity and orientation Heal from sexual abuse and trauma Get to the root cause of issues driving sexual concerns Address stigma, shame, or fear you may have around sex Finding a therapist who is the right fit and that you feel comfortable with is vital, so that you can allow yourself to really open up and be vulnerable about your experiences and challenges. Get support from a qualified sex therapist in the South Florida area Struggling with your sex drive is not how you want to live your life. Getting support from qualified professionals can help you create change. Starting sex therapy can help you explore your challenges in the bedroom and beyond, including why you may be struggling to orgasm, issues with low libido, or other sexual issues, such as inappropriate sexual arousal. It will put you on the road to enjoying a fulfilling, satisfying, sex life. The team at Love Discovery is ready to welcome you with open arms. If you’re ready to get started in therapy to help facilitate healing within yourself and your interpersonal relationships, make an appointment with any of our therapists today. Feeling hesitant about how we can help? Call 786.571.4636 for a free 20-minute consultation. We are here to help you improve your mental health – and your sex life – and support you through this tough time.

Chronic stress can contribute to burnout. Unfortunately, experts are saying that burnout is on the rise. Here’s how to recognize it – and what you can do to recover. Key takeaways: Burnout is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion that is caused by chronic stress. Over 75% of employed adults have reported experiencing burnout. Burnout can affect all areas of your life, including home, work, your social life, and even your physical and mental health. Symptoms can be physical, emotional, and behavioral. The “3 R’s” – Recognize, Reverse, and Resilience – can help you prevent and recover from burnout. It’s likely you’ve heard someone say they’re dealing with “burnout” to describe being exhausted and overwhelmed. What exactly is this? And, how can you recognize it? Burnout is caused by chronic stress and is characterized by emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion. If you’re experiencing burnout, you may feel overwhelmed, drained emotionally, and unable to meet the constant demands of your day-to-day life. This increased and prolonged stress may decrease your interest and motivation to engage in various activities – including ones that previously excited you. Operating from a state of burnout can zap your energy and decrease your productivity, which in turn leads to more burnout as the tasks pile up. It can leave you feeling helpless, hopeless, and even resentful of your obligations. Unfortunately, the effects of burnout are pervasive and insidious, and what starts out as burnout in one area of your life can begin to affect any and all areas, including your work, home, and social life. It can even have health consequences – chronic stress changes your physiology and impacts your nervous system, leaving you vulnerable to mental health challenges and sicknesses like colds and flus. Unfortunately, it’s exceedingly common – over 75% of employed adults have experienced it, and that number is on the rise. So, what are the signs and what can you do about it? We explain. What are the symptoms of burnout? Everyone has bad days or times they feel overwhelmed and underappreciated. If you feel like this most of the time, though, you may be experiencing burnout. Burnout doesn't happen overnight; it’s a gradual process, and if you learn to recognize the red flags, you may be able to prevent it by reducing your stress. Here are some of the signs and symptoms of burnout: Physical: Feeling exhausted most of the time Sleep and rest don’t seem to restore you Changes in appetite or sleeping habits Decreased immunity; frequent colds or infections Frequent headaches or muscle pain Emotional: Feeling doubtful or like a failure Loss of motivation Becoming negative, cynical, or pessimistic Lacking a sense of satisfaction or accomplishment Feeling isolated, detached, or alone Feelings of helplessness or defeat Feeling like a prisoner in your own life Behavioral: Relying on food, drugs, or alcohol to cope Short-tempered and lashing out at others Skipping work, leaving early, or coming late Procrastinating or avoiding tasks Backing out of responsibilities or engagements Isolating yourself from family, friends, and co-workers Burnout has reached the point where it’s a public health problem and most of us will likely experience it at some time or another. Is there any way to deal with it? Fortunately, yes. How to deal with burnout Since almost everyone will experience burnout at some time in their lives, it’s important to recognize the signs and symptoms. Early intervention is key – if you’re already experiencing burnout, trying to “push through” will only exacerbate things further. It’s important that in dealing with it, you learn how to course-correct so that you can feel your best again. The “3 R’s” can help you do this: Recognize: Know the warning signs of burnout and be on the lookout for any signs of impending stress. Reverse: Stop burnout in its tracks by getting support and managing your stress. Resilience: Improve your ability to bounce back from stressful situations by building your resilience to stress; this involves caring for both your physical and mental health. Keep reading for more tips on how to recover from burnout and improve your sense of well-being. Turn to your support network Although you may feel the urge to isolate because you’re so drained, surrounding yourself with support is exactly what you need right now. Being around your trusted friends and family can foster a safe space for you and help you to recharge your batteries. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable and letting them know what you’re struggling with can be beneficial – they may be willing to support you by picking up some tasks, allowing you more time to recover and rest. Rethink things at work Burnout has been extensively studied in the workplace, as one of the main drivers of it can be workplace conditions. You likely spend a lot of time at work, and spending the majority of your day at a job or in working conditions you hate is a fast-track to burnout. While quitting your job and finding a new one is a quick remedy, it’s decidedly not practical for most people to up and leave their jobs. Take all of your allotted time off – don’t leave any of your paid time off on the table. Try to remember what drew you to this employment in the first place, other than the obvious benefit of a paycheck. Connect with the people whose company you enjoy at work, and try to find a renewed sense of purpose in your tasks. Although this is ultimately a bandage, it can help you feel more in control of a situation you desperately want to change. Prioritize self-care When you’re dealing with burnout, self-care is one of the first things that you might start letting go of. View your self-care time as non-negotiable and prioritize it. That means sleep is more important than work – don’t skip out on rest, meals, or pleasurable activities to keep working. Create boundaries for yourself, such as no working after you’re home, no working on weekends, or setting aside specific times for handling work communication that doesn’t cut into family and personal time. If you work from home, this can be more difficult – creating a routine that prioritizes your needs as a human, such as nourishing meals, family time, and time to relax, is a must. Get support from an effective therapist in Coral Gables Talking about your stress with someone may be helpful if you’re experiencing burnout. Having the support from the right professionals can take away a draining mental and physical burden. Individual therapy can be beneficial to increase your coping skills, help you build resiliency, and give you a safe space to heal. The team at Love Discovery is ready to welcome you with open arms. If you’re ready to get started in therapy to help facilitate healing within yourself and your interpersonal relationships, make an appointment with any of our therapists today. Feeling hesitant about how we can help? Call 786.571.4636 for a free 20-minute consultation. We are here to help you improve your mental health and support you continually.

If your partner is avoidant, they may find it difficult to discuss issues with you, and end up shutting down. Here are some tips to make it easier to discuss conflict with your partner when they won’t talk to you. Key takeaways: Recognize the reasons your partner may be withdrawing from the conversation and honor their space. Write your thoughts and feelings down so you can recall them easier when you and your partner are in a safe space to communicate again. Know how to self-soothe and have a list of coping skills you can employ. Most people tend to get louder when they feel unheard but yelling isn’t healthy and can be triggering. When it’s time to talk, use active listening and allow your partner to express themselves fully without getting defensive. Use “I” statements and take accountability for your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Focus on the solution and set goals for difficult conversations. All relationships have conflict. Resolving it peacefully and healthily can create safety in a relationship. To cultivate a sense of safety, communication needs to be healthy. Here are some ways you can begin to communicate effectively. If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you and your partner have likely fallen into repetitive roles in the relationship. Each partner has their go-to tools that they resort to in times of need. For some, especially those with avoidant personalities or avoidant attachment styles, that may look like shutting down. This usually leads to the other partner trying to communicate but the other partner is shut down. The pursuant party may find that the harder they try to communicate, the more the other partner withdraws. This cycle can be persistent and is often frustrating to all – especially when the pursuant partner cranks up the volume as they feel unheard. This can turn into a disastrous cycle and eventually partners may stop trying to connect, which can lead to other serious relationship issues. If your partner clams up during conflict, here are seven tips to navigate what to do when they won’t talk to you. No communication IS communication Recognize that your partner’s choice not to communicate with you at the moment is a form of communication. Think about why they may have withdrawn – is it possible they’re overwhelmed? Are you being overbearing or worse, are you becoming aggressive with your attempts to communicate? Regardless of what’s happening on your end, they are telling you that they need some space. It’s fine to back off and let cooler heads prevail. Honor their need for space and time. Don’t punish them for their silence; everyone has different coping skills. Not everyone handles big feelings in the same way and that’s totally fine. Write your feelings and thoughts down One reason people may be tempted to push communication is because they feel the need to be heard, and they have thoughts and feelings they need to get off their chest. If your partner is unwilling to hear you out right now, that’s fine. Write down your urgent thoughts and feelings so you can revisit them later when your partner is ready to engage. Do some self-soothing activities It’s natural to want to seek comfort from your partner, even in times of conflict. That’s another reason why one partner may continue to pursue communication even when the other partner isn’t ready – they want to resolve the conflict and move past it and are eager to be close to their partner again. Some people may fixate on their partner’s silence and become further distressed. This can often be seen in folks with anxious or ambivalent attachment styles. At times like this, it’s important to have coping skills you can employ to self-soothe. Pick some coping skills to engage in, such as taking a bath, listening to soothing music, journaling, or going for a walk. The louder you are, the less you’ll be heard Most people tend to speak louder when they feel they aren’t being heard. Unfortunately, that can escalate into yelling. Yelling at your partner is not healthy, and it will likely either provoke them to yell back to defend themselves or cause them to further shut down. Being yelled at doesn’t feel good, and for some, it can be triggering and even scary. When you yell, no one is listening to what you’re saying; they’re listening to the fact that you’re yelling. The louder you are, the less you’ll be heard. Speak calmly and conversationally – and if you can’t do that because you need to calm down, disengage until you can discuss the situation at hand calmly. Use active listening Another human tendency is to listen to someone in order to respond. We’ve all been guilty of listening to someone and planning our response while they’re talking instead of being present in the conversation and actively listening. This is especially true during a conflict, when we may feel attacked and compelled to defend ourselves. If you’ve ever had a conversation with someone who was extremely defensive and focused only on rebuttals, you know how frustrating it can be; it may even be frustrating enough that someone stops engaging. So, get out your listening ears and get ready to hear your partner out – even if you don’t like what they’re saying. Use “I” statements Communicating with “I” statements is one way to facilitate safe communication in a relationship. Using “I” statements allows you to take ownership of your feelings without attacking the other party or placing blame – things that can immediately put someone on the defense and make them avoidant or shut down. “I really like spending time with you when we can just relax and have downtime…if I had help with dinner tonight, we could have more time together” sounds much more appealing than “You never help me with dinner! You don’t do enough around the house!” Focus on the solution Solution-focused communication avoids pulling you and your partner into an endless cycle of complaints without change. Set goals for the meeting and get clear about what you want to happen before you start the conversation. This will stop the convo from veering off into a tangent or the unnecessary rehashing of old wounds. When your partner knows what it is you want or expect, they’re much more likely to give it to you. Get support from a qualified, caring couples therapist in the South Florida area If improving communication with your partner is a priority for you, going to therapy can help a lot. Having the support from the right professionals can create a huge shift. Both couples therapy and individual therapy can help improve your communication skills. Our South Florida Therapists are ready to welcome you with open arms. If you’re ready to get started in individual counseling or couples counseling to help facilitate healing within yourself and your relationships, make an appointment with any of our therapists today. Feeling hesitant about how we can help? Call 786.571.4636 for a free 20-minute consultation. We are here to help you improve your communication with your partner, leading to a happier, healthier relationship.

The end goal for sex is usually –climaxing – but what if you’re unable to reach orgasm? Here are some reasons this may be happening to you and what you can do about it. Key takeaways: Studies show only 10% of women can reach climax easily. Little is known about female orgasms in comparison to male orgasms because of gender biases present in science and medical research. Reaching orgasm is a very personal process and you may need to experiment to find what works for you. There are many reasons you may be unable to orgasm. They can be psychological, physical, or a combination. A history of sexual shame, trauma, or abuse can make it very difficult to feel safe during sex and relax enough to climax. Sex therapy can help if you’re struggling to reach orgasm. Difficulty climaxing affects people of all genders but research by the Cleveland Clinic reveals that only 10% of women can orgasm easily. That means climaxing is a little more complicated for the other 90% of women, who are likely affected by a multitude of obstructions to orgasm. The female orgasm hasn’t been studied as extensively as the male orgasm – a consequence of the systemic gender biases present in both science and medical research. Exact data about orgasmic dysfunction is difficult to come by, largely due to the variability in how dysfunction is defined, who is sampled, and the phrasing of questions. One interesting finding is that women who live in countries with a negative cultural attitude toward sex report higher rates of anorgasmia, or difficulty orgasming. Orgasming is very much an individual process and finding what works for you may just be an exploratory process. Or, it may be a process you should work through with a therapist because there may be outside factors, such as stress or relationship issues, that are affecting your ability to have a satisfying sex life. We talk about common reasons for being unable to orgasm, how you can attempt to fix it, and if sex therapy is a good option to consider. Common reasons for being unable to orgasm There are many reasons that women find themselves unable to reach climax. Here are a few: Mood disorders, such as depression Health conditions that cause painful sex, like endometriosis Previous sexual trauma Relationship issues History of gynecological or pelvic surgeries, such as a hysterectomy Not being physically stimulated enough Hormonal changes, such as menopause Medications, including certain types of antidepressants Chronic health conditions, such as autoimmune or heart disease Worrying about sexual performance Failure to reach orgasm can –be physical and/or psychological. Either way, it’s important to remember that you are not broken and you are whole just as you are. Let’s take an in-depth look at some of the more common reasons for being unable to climax. You may not know how to reach your “O” It might sound silly, but one reason you’re unable to climax may be because you haven’t practiced how to. There’s a lot of stigma around masturbation – particularly female masturbation – even in more sexually liberated societies like the United States. Masturbation isn’t shameful; in fact, it’s perfectly normal and natural. It can help you become familiar with your body and what you like and don’t like...and what can bring you to climax. Once you know what pleases you, it will be much easier for you to direct your partner to do those things. You’re not drinking enough water Water is life, and believe it or not, dehydration can play a role in your ability to orgasm. Fluid is necessary for the arousal tissue that extends into the connective tissue system to slide and glide efficiently for orgasm to occur. So, try drinking a glass of water before engaging in sexual activity and see if that helps. There’s a history of sexual shame, trauma, or abuse Even in sex-positive societies, there can be a lot of negative messages about shame and sex that can be internalized. Victim blaming, rape culture, and slut-shaming can all affect the messages you receive around sex, and potentially even your sexual trauma. Feeling unsafe in sexual situations due to past trauma history can even put your nervous system in flight, fright, or freeze mode, which means you’ll find it extremely challenging to relax enough to climax. What is sex therapy? Regardless of the reasons you’re struggling to reach orgasm, sex therapy can help. A sex therapist can help you explore your sexuality in a safe space. Sex therapy is a form of talk therapy – no, it doesn’t involve any sexual activity with your therapist – that can help address a myriad of concerns ranging from sexual identity, intimacy challenges, and sexual trauma. Sex therapists have specialized training to help with these issues. Some of the many issues they can help with include: Sexual wellness Sexual addiction Body image issues Sexual dysfunction Performance anxiety Alternative lifestyles While it may sound intimidating at first, it’s likely far more uncomfortable for you to keep living a life where you’re not sexually satisfied. How sex therapy can help As with any form of therapy, your therapist will collaborate with you to set goals for treatment. Some of the goals may be: Explore your sexual identity and orientation Address stigma, shame, or fear you may have around sex Get to the root cause of issues driving sexual concerns Heal from sexual abuse and trauma Learn how to improve intimacy with your partner Become confident, curious, and joyous in your sexuality Sex therapy is first and foremost about you and what you feel comfortable discussing. It’s important to find a therapist that you trust and feel safe with so you can really open up about your challenges in the bedroom. Get support from a qualified, supportive sex therapist in the South Florida area Living with an unfulfilling sex life is no fun. Having the support from the right professionals can create a huge shift. Engaging in sex therapy can help you explore why you’re struggling to orgasm and help you enjoy a fulfilling, satisfying, sex life. The team at Love Discovery is ready to welcome you with open arms. If you’re ready to get started in therapy to help facilitate healing within yourself and your interpersonal relationships, make an appointment with any of our therapists today. Feeling hesitant about how we can help? Call 786.571.4636 for a free 20-minute consultation.

You may be wondering if you can be depressed and not know it. Depression, like many mental health conditions, can be challenging to detect. While some people experience the classic symptoms of sadness, hopelessness, and lack of interest in activities that used to bring joy, others may exhibit subtle signs that are not immediately recognizable. It's essential to understand the full spectrum of depression symptoms to identify when you or someone you know needs professional help. In this article, we will explore the possibility of being depressed without realizing it and uncover hidden signs that often go unnoticed. Key Takeaways Depression can manifest in subtle ways that may not be immediately recognizable It's essential to recognize the full spectrum of depression symptoms to seek appropriate help Understanding Depression: More Than Just Sadness According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), approximately 21 million adults in the U.S., which is 8.4% of the population, experienced a significant depressive episode in 2020. While depression can impact individuals from every age group, race, ethnicity, and economic status, certain groups are more susceptible to it than others. Depression is more than just feeling sad. It is a complex, multifaceted mental health issue that can manifest in many ways. While some individuals experience classic symptoms of depression, such as feeling hopeless or having difficulty sleeping, others may experience unrecognized or hidden forms of depression. Unrecognized depression, also known as silent depression or depression without awareness, can be difficult to identify. It may present in subtle ways, making it hard for individuals to recognize their own symptoms. Some individuals may not even realize they are experiencing depression, as the signs can be masked by other emotions or behaviors. Depression can impact various areas of a person’s life, causing changes in mood, appetite, energy, and motivation. It can also lead to physical symptoms, such as headaches, fatigue, and digestive issues. Understanding the nature of depression and its many forms is essential to recognizing the signs and seeking help. Understanding Depression Beyond Ordinary Sadness Depression goes beyond feeling sad or upset. It is a clinical condition characterized by a persistent feeling of hopelessness, sadness, or emptiness that lasts for days, weeks, or even months. Depression can impact an individual’s ability to function in everyday life, making it difficult to perform routine tasks or enjoy activities they once found pleasurable. Untreated depression can lead to serious health consequences, such as substance abuse, physical health problems, and even suicide. Recognizing the signs and symptoms of depression is critical to preventing negative outcomes and promoting mental wellbeing. Factors such as genetics, brain chemistry, and life events can contribute to the development of depression. Understanding these factors is essential to recognizing when depression is present and seeking appropriate treatment. Recognizing the Many Forms of Depression Depression can manifest in many different ways, and some forms of depression may go unnoticed or unrecognized. Covert depression, also known as undiagnosed depression, is a type of depression that goes unrecognized due to the absence of classic symptoms. Covert depression may present as physical symptoms, such as headaches, back pain, or digestive issues. It may also lead to changes in behavior or mood, such as increased irritability or decreased motivation. These symptoms may not be directly linked to depression, and as a result, the individual may not recognize the underlying cause. Subclinical depression is another form of depression that may go unnoticed. Subclinical depression is characterized by mild to moderate symptoms of depression that do not meet the criteria for a formal diagnosis. Individuals with subclinical depression may experience low mood, decreased motivation, and a lack of interest in activities they once found pleasurable. Distinguishing Depression from Ordinary Sadness Depression is often conflated with ordinary feelings of sadness or upset. While it is normal to experience sadness or grief in response to difficult life events, depression is a more persistent condition that impacts many areas of an individual’s life. Depression can be distinguished from ordinary sadness by the presence of certain hallmark symptoms, such as a persistent feeling of sadness or hopelessness, changes in appetite or sleep patterns, and decreased motivation or interest in pleasurable activities. If you are experiencing persistent feelings of sadness or other symptoms of depression, it is important to seek appropriate help. Depression is a treatable condition, and seeking professional support can help you better manage your symptoms and improve your overall quality of life. The Covert Symptoms of Hidden Depression Depression does not always manifest in obvious ways. Sometimes, individuals may experience covert symptoms of depression that can be difficult to recognize or acknowledge. These symptoms can include physical ailments, such as headaches, fatigue, or stomach problems, as well as psychological indicators such as irritability, feelings of hopelessness, or changes in appetite or sleep patterns. Undiagnosed depression is often referred to as "silent" or "covert" depression because individuals may not be aware that they are experiencing symptoms. While they may function adequately in everyday life, they may still feel a persistent sense of emptiness, sadness, or despair. If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, it is essential to seek help from a mental health professional. While depression can be debilitating, it is also a treatable condition with a variety of effective therapies available. "It is okay to not be okay." - Unknown Remember that healing and recovery are possible. By recognizing the covert symptoms of hidden depression and seeking appropriate treatment, you can begin to take control of your mental health and wellbeing. Recognizing Depression Without Realizing It Depression can be elusive, especially when you are not aware that you are experiencing it. It is possible to be living with subclinical depression, which means exhibiting some but not all the symptoms of depression, without realizing it. In this section, we will explore why this can happen and how it can affect your life. Why You May Experience Depression Without Realizing It There are many reasons why you may be experiencing depression without realizing it. For example, depression can be an insidious condition that creeps up on you slowly over time, making it difficult to recognize the gradual changes in your mood and behavior. Additionally, depression can manifest in many different ways, not just as sadness. Some of the factors that contribute to depression without awareness include long-term stress, chronic pain, and medication side effects. These can all have subtle effects on your mood and behavior, making it easy to overlook the underlying depression. The Impact of Subclinical Depression on Your Daily Life Living with subclinical depression can have a significant impact on your daily life, even though you may not realize it. You may find that you have less energy, motivation, and enjoyment in activities that you used to enjoy. You may also have trouble sleeping, experience changes in appetite, and have difficulty concentrating. Over time, subclinical depression can lead to more severe symptoms and have a negative impact on your personal and professional relationships, as well as your overall quality of life. Therefore, it is essential to recognize the signs of depression, even when they are subtle, and seek appropriate help. Differentiating Depression from Ordinary Sadness It's common to feel sad from time to time, but how do you know if what you're experiencing is depression or just a passing emotion? Depression is more than just feeling down or blue; it's a persistent and pervasive feeling of sadness, hopelessness, and helplessness that can interfere with daily life. One key difference between depression and sadness is the duration of the feelings. Sadness is a normal reaction to a difficult situation, such as a breakup or the loss of a loved one, and typically subsides as you process your emotions. Depression, on the other hand, lingers for weeks or months and may have no apparent cause. Another difference is the intensity of the emotions. While sadness can be painful, depression can be debilitating and may affect your ability to carry out normal activities, such as work or socializing. Depression may also be accompanied by physical symptoms, such as fatigue, appetite changes, and sleep disturbances, which are not typically present with ordinary feelings of sadness. If you're unsure whether what you're experiencing is depression or just normal sadness, it's important to seek professional evaluation. A mental health professional can help you understand your emotions and provide guidance on appropriate treatment options. Unveiling the Complexities of Depressed But Not Sad Depression is often equated with feeling sad or down, but the reality is much more complex. You may be experiencing depression without feeling overt sadness, yet find yourself struggling with other emotions and symptoms. Depression can manifest in various ways, from irritability and frustration to numbness and apathy. You may not even realize that what you're feeling is depression, as the symptoms can be subtle and insidious. It's important to recognize that depression is not your fault and that seeking help is a sign of strength. Depression can affect anyone, regardless of their background or circumstances, and reaching out for support is a crucial step towards healing. Understanding the Emotional Spectrum of Depression Depression is not a one-size-fits-all experience. While sadness is a common symptom, depression can also involve a wide range of other emotions that may not be immediately recognizable as depressive symptoms. For example, you may feel restless, agitated, or irritable, even when there's no obvious trigger for your emotions. It's also possible to feel emotionally numb or disconnected, which can be especially confusing if you're not used to feeling that way. You might find that you're not interested in activities that used to bring you joy, or that you feel apathetic about your daily routine. All of these are potential signs of depression, and it's important to pay attention to how you're feeling. The Impact of Social Stigma It can be challenging to come to terms with the fact that you're experiencing depression, especially if you don't fit the stereotype of a "depressed person." Social stigma around mental health issues can make it difficult to acknowledge and seek help for depression, as you may worry about being perceived as weak or "crazy." Remember that depression is a real and legitimate illness, and seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. You don't have to suffer in silence, and you deserve to get the help and support you need. The Importance of Seeking Professional Help If you suspect that you're experiencing depression, it's important to seek professional help. A therapist or mental health professional can help you understand your symptoms, develop coping strategies, and create a treatment plan that's tailored to your needs. Therapy can also provide a safe and supportive space to explore your emotions and express yourself without fear of judgement. Together with your therapist, you can work on identifying the root causes of your depression, building your resilience, and developing a plan for moving forward. Remember that depression is a treatable condition, and with the right support, you can regain your sense of wellbeing and find joy and fulfillment in life once again. Seeking Clarity: Can You Be Depressed Without Feeling Sad? You may be wondering if it's possible to experience depression without feeling sad. The answer is yes. Depression can manifest in various emotional states, and sadness is just one of them. Depression can also feel like numbness, emptiness, apathy, and hopelessness. You may lose interest in activities you once enjoyed, experience changes in appetite and sleep patterns, and feel fatigued or physically unwell without any clear cause. These are all possible symptoms of depression, even without a sense of sadness. If you find yourself experiencing any of these symptoms, it's important to take them seriously and seek professional help. Depression is a treatable condition, and receiving the right support can help you regain control of your life. Recognizing the Signs: How Do You Know if You're Depressed or Just Sad? It can be challenging to differentiate between depression and ordinary sadness. But the key distinction lies in the duration and intensity of your emotional state. While sadness usually subsides after a brief period, depression tends to linger for weeks or months, intensifying over time. One of the most common misconceptions about depression is that it always manifests as overwhelming sadness. But this is not the case. Depression can present in various ways, including irritability, hopelessness, and physical symptoms like fatigue and sleep disturbances. So, how do you know if you're experiencing depression without realizing it? By paying attention to your emotional and physical state, and looking for the following signs: Feeling persistently drained or unmotivated Difficulty sleeping, or oversleeping Irritability, agitation, or restlessness Lack of interest in activities that you once enjoyed Changes in appetite or weight Inability to concentrate, remember details, or make decisions Thoughts of worthlessness or guilt Recurrent thoughts of death or suicide If you recognize any of these symptoms, it's important to seek professional evaluation to confirm whether you're experiencing depression. A mental health professional can provide you with a proper diagnosis, and guide you towards an appropriate treatment plan that works for you. Remember, recognizing the signs of depression is the first step towards recovery. So, don't hesitate to seek help if you need it. Stories That Highlight Depression Without Sadness It can be difficult to understand the experience of depression without an overt sense of sadness, but it's more common than you may think. Here are a few stories that illustrate this hidden struggle: "I never thought of myself as depressed because I wasn't crying all the time or constantly sad. But looking back, I can see now that I was disinterested in everything, and getting out of bed each day was a challenge. I had no motivation, no joy, and no energy. It was a very lonely and isolating experience." - Sarah Sarah's story is all too familiar for many who experience depression without realizing it. The lack of motivation and joy can be subtle, and lead to a sense of disconnection from yourself and the world around you. "I was always irritable and short-tempered, snapping at people for no reason. I didn't know why, but I just felt angry all the time. It wasn't until I sought help that I realized it was a symptom of depression. Now that I'm receiving treatment, I feel much more myself." - John John's story highlights the often-overlooked link between irritability and depression. It's crucial to recognize these less obvious symptoms and seek help accordingly. These stories are just a few examples of how depression can manifest in unexpected ways. Depicting Depression Beyond Sadness: Art and Imagery Art has the power to express complex emotions in ways that words sometimes cannot. It can help us understand and relate to those who may be struggling with depression without feeling overt sadness. A picture is worth a thousand words, and in the case of depression, it can provide a window into the hidden struggles of those who may be suffering silently. Many artists have used their work to explore the complexities of depression beyond sadness, offering viewers a glimpse into the emotional depths of the condition. These are just a few examples of how art and imagery can depict depression beyond sadness. It is important to note that while these works may offer insights, everyone's experience with depression is unique, and no single image can capture the full range of emotions associated with the condition. Whether you are an artist seeking to express your experience with depression, or someone looking to gain a deeper understanding of the condition, exploring art can be a powerful tool for fostering empathy and connection. Conclusion: Embracing Mental Wellbeing and Seeking Help Now that you're aware of the possibility of being depressed without realizing it, it's important to prioritize your mental wellbeing. If you're experiencing any of the hidden signs we discussed, it's time to seek professional evaluation. The Love Discovery Institute in Coral Gables, FL, is a trusted resource for therapy solutions. We offer a range of therapy and counseling services to help you navigate the complexities of mental health. Reach us at 305-605-5683 or make an appointment. Don't ignore the signs of depression. You deserve to live a happy, healthy life. Seeking help is the first step towards embracing your mental wellbeing. Remember, you're not alone. FAQ Q: Can you be depressed and not know it? A: Yes, it is possible to be depressed without realizing it. Depression can manifest in subtle ways, and individuals may not recognize their symptoms as signs of depression. Q: What are the signs of hidden depression? A: Hidden depression may present with symptoms such as persistent fatigue, changes in appetite or sleep patterns, irritability, withdrawal from social activities, and a general lack of interest or pleasure in things once enjoyed. Q: How can I differentiate depression from ordinary feelings of sadness? A: While sadness is a normal part of life, depression involves persistent feelings of hopelessness, emptiness, and a lack of motivation. If feelings of sadness persist for an extended period and impact daily functioning, it may be a sign of depression. Q: Can you be depressed without feeling sad? A: Yes, it is possible to experience depression without feeling overt sadness. Depression can manifest in different emotional ways, such as irritability, anger, or numbness. Q: How do I know if I'm depressed or just sad? A: Recognizing the signs of depression involves assessing the duration and intensity of your feelings. If your sadness persists for an extended period, impacts your daily life, and is accompanied by other symptoms such as changes in appetite or sleep patterns, it may be an indication of depression. Q: What is the difference between being sad and being depressed? A: While sadness is a normal emotional response to certain triggers, depression involves persistent feelings of despair, emptiness, and a lack of interest in activities you once enjoyed. Depression typically lasts longer than ordinary sadness and may require professional help to overcome. Q: Can you have depression without feeling sad? A: Yes, depression can manifest in various ways and may not always involve overt feelings of sadness. It is important to pay attention to other emotional and physical symptoms that may indicate depression. Q: How can I differentiate between ordinary sadness and depression? A: Distinguishing between ordinary sadness and depression requires assessing the duration, intensity, and impact on daily life. If your feelings of sadness persist for an extended period and significantly affect your functioning, it may be indicative of depression. Q: Where can I find more information and support for depression? A: For further information and support regarding depression, the Love Discovery Institute in Coral Gables, FL, offers psychotherapy to help those suffering with depression. The institute can also provide additional guidance and assistance in seeking help for depression.

Attachment theory is the idea that we develop an “attachment style” from our formative relationships – both with our parents as babies, and the relationships we go on to develop as adults Key takeaways: Attachment is an emotional bond with someone. There are four attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. While the commonly held belief is that attachment styles are formed by our relationships with our parents as babies, any formative relationship is likely to influence your attachment style. It’s possible to change your style with intention, patience, and time. Attachment is an emotional bond between two people. British psychoanalyst John Bowlby, who is credited as the father of attachment theory, described attachment as a “lasting psychological connectedness between human beings.” Bowlby strongly believed that early childhood experiences are foundational in development, and can impact behaviors later in life. Attachment theory has revealed how our attachment style with our parents or primary caregivers as babies can impact our relationships as adults. It can help predict our behavior in relationships, some say. We explain the four different attachment styles and how they might be impacting your relationships. The characteristics of attachment Bowlby proposed that there was an evolutionary component at play with attachment. He believed that it’s an adaptive trait necessary for survival, as well as human nature. He defined four characteristics of attachment: Proximity maintenance: This is the desire for closeness with the attachment figure. Safe haven: The attachment figure is where we retreat for comfort and safety when presented with a threat. Secure base: The attachment figure is our “home base,” a place of security from which we can explore the world around us. Separation distress: Separation distress is commonly known as “separation anxiety,” referring to the anxiety that occurs in the absence of the attachment figure. Today’s experts believe that attachment styles can also be influenced by relationships we have as adults. This means it’s possible to learn new attachment behaviors based on formative experiences. Therefore, with conscious and intentional work, it is possible to heal your attachment style if your current one isn’t serving you. Research on attachment theory Although Bowlby is credited with developing attachment theory, research on attachment started with the “father of modern psychology,” Sigmund Freud. It has been studied with much interest ever since. The attachment theory we know today has been developed and shaped by multiple researchers. A colleague of Bowlby, psychologist Mary Ainsworth, expanded on Bowlby’s original attachment theory by identifying the differences in how various infants dealt with being separated from their parents. She conducted a famous experiment in the 1970s called the “Strange Situation” experiment. This experiment identified the four attachment types: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. In the 1980s, the work of Ainsworth and Bowlby was applied to adult romantic relationships. In 1998, the idea of adult attachment was further developed. Two dimensions influencing attachment patterns were described: attachment-related anxiety and attachment-related avoidance. The four attachment styles The attachment styles identified by Ainsworth are characterized by the behaviors exhibited, particularly during a threat. Understanding your own style can provide valuable insight into how you show up – or don’t show up – in your relationships. It can also help you understand your own biases in how you interpret the behaviors of others, including your partner. Lastly, it gives you a conceptual framework for how you can identify and change these patterns. The four styles are: 1. Secure attachment Secure attachments are a result of reliable and responsive attachment figures. Those with a secure style have a strong sense of safety and stability and report higher rates of satisfaction in their relationships. They are comfortable with themselves and aren’t afraid to be alone, but can develop close relationships and build trust with their partners. 2. Anxious attachment One of the three insecure attachment types, people with an anxious style can be clingy, uncertain, and require a lot of validation. Although they desire emotional intimacy, they fear that others don’t. This style is also known as ambivalent attachment, anxious-preoccupied, or ambivalent-anxious attachment. Anxious attachment likely occurs when attachment figures are unreliable, inconsistent, or unpredictable. 3. Avoidant attachment Avoidant attachment is another insecure attachment style, also known as avoidant-dismissive attachment. This style is characterized by hyper-independence, which can be a trauma response derived from being unable to safely and reliably depend on anyone. This style is the opposite of the anxious attachment style – instead of desiring intimacy, avoidantly attached people actively seek to avoid emotional connections with others. They may come off as aloof or uninterested. Avoidant attachment is created when attachment figures are dismissive, distant, and unresponsive. Even if physical needs are met, attachment figures are emotionally unavailable, creating a learned behavior of emotional avoidance. 4. Fearful-avoidant attachment (disorganized) Fearful-avoidant attachment is also known as disorganized or disoriented attachment. This style is prevalent in those who have a history of childhood trauma such as abuse or neglect. It can be a result of an attachment figure who was using maladaptive coping skills to deal with their own unresolved traumas. Your attachment figure may play multiple roles in your life, presenting as a source of fear and distress, as well as comfort, understandably leading to confusion. Fearful-avoidant attachment may manifest as someone who wants a close relationship, but experiences deep fear about relationships and finds it difficult to trust. They may not understand what a healthy relationship looks like. This may present as someone who’s “hot and cold” or has difficulty maintaining a stable relationship because they are engaged in a “push and pull.” While some people can identify their styles by reading the descriptors, there are lots of quizzes online. You can take an attachment style test based on scientific research here. Criticism of attachment theory -- and why it's popular anyway Some psychologists disagree with attachment theory, arguing that it’s unlikely caregivers can dramatically shape an infant’s personality so early in life. Studies looking to link infant attachment patterns with adult attachment styles found only “small to moderate” correlations. However, this can be explained by the idea that attachment style is not fixed, but fluid, and can be impacted by other formative relationships in life – not just our childhood attachments. This theory has caught on as well as it has because it helps people understand how their past experiences may be influencing their current relationships. It helps them understand themselves and their behaviors. It also helps them identify areas they can work on. Get support from a qualified, caring therapist in Coral Gables Relationship challenges can be difficult, as can changing our own behaviors and patterning around them. Having the support from the right professionals can create a huge shift. Individual or joint therapy can help explore existing patterns and create newer, more helpful ones. The team at Love Discovery is ready to welcome you with open arms. If you’re ready to get started in therapy to help facilitate healing within yourself and your interpersonal relationships, make an appointment with any of our therapists today. Feeling hesitant about how we can help? Call 786.571.4636 for a free 20-minute consultation.

Trust is understandably damaged after cheating, but there are ways for couples to rebuild intimacy after infidelity. How To Build Intimacy After Infidelity Betrayal in a relationship can give rise to a multitude of emotions, including grief, anger, sadness, and anxiety. Infidelity shakes the foundation of trust that couples have painstakingly built over time. At this juncture, it may seem impossible to mend the broken bond. Well-meaning friends and family may advise you to leave the relationship, often repeating the adage, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." However, there are ways for couples to rebuild intimacy after infidelity and restore the trust that has been shattered. Making the Decision: Moving Forward Together Following the discovery of an affair, couples are faced with a crucial decision: whether to continue the relationship or part ways. Discernment counseling is a valuable resource that can assist you in making healthy choices regarding the future of your relationship. Active participation in this process is crucial, as ambiguity only hinders the healing journey. Recovering Intimacy: A Journey of Time and Commitment It is important to acknowledge that intimacy can be restored after infidelity. However, rebuilding the relationship demands significant commitment and dedication from both partners. Here are several key steps that can help rebuild intimacy after an affair: 1. Embracing Self-Compassion Avoid blaming yourself for your partner's actions. The news of an affair may lead to self-doubt, causing you to question your own attractiveness and worth. Remember, you are not responsible for your partner's choices in the relationship. Acknowledge that their actions are their own, and focus on rebuilding from within. 2. Validating Your Emotions Recognize that all of your emotions are valid, regardless of whether they are painful or intense. Give yourself permission to feel hurt, angry, and sad. Rather than labeling these emotions as negative, approach them with gentle curiosity, allowing yourself the necessary time and space to explore and understand them fully. 3. Honest Communication and Inquiry In the aftermath of an affair, it is natural to have numerous questions. Some questions require immediate answers, such as the nature of the affair, potential risks, duration, and any financial implications. Your partner must respond with honesty and transparency, as open conversations are vital for moving forward. While it is essential to avoid bombarding your partner continuously, creating an environment where you receive the answers you need is crucial. The importance cannot be understated on the need for communicating effectively and honestly. 4. The Three Phases of Erotic Recovery Sex and intimacy can become complex in the wake of deep betrayal. Dr. Tammy Nelson presents the concept of erotic recovery, which encompasses a three-stage process that addresses the emotional, physical, and intimate needs of the relationship. These phases include: The Crisis Phase: This initial phase often involves emotional volatility, intrusive thoughts about the affair, and a heightened sexual attraction known as "mate guarding" in the animal kingdom. Conflict and arguments may arise frequently, and some individuals may experience a disconnect from intimacy due to overwhelming anger and sadness. The Insight Phase: Moving away from obsessing over details and assigning blame, the insight phase fosters curiosity about the underlying causes of the affair. Couples therapy is highly recommended during this phase, as it helps explore the reasons behind infidelity. Cultivating empathy allows couples to better understand each other and their behaviors, leading to newfound hope for the relationship's salvage. The Vision Phase: In this final phase, it is important to envision a new future for the relationship. Neglecting the erotic aspect and solely focusing on conflict management can lead to dissatisfaction and sexual frustration. By actively practicing erotic recovery and prioritizing trust, safety, and comfort, couples can rebuild a fulfilling and intimate connection. 5. Rebuilding Trust Through Shared Activities Commit to spending quality time together engaging in enjoyable activities. Embrace the idea of date nights and, when both partners feel ready, reintroduce sexual intimacy. Recognize that it may take time for the desire for sex to return, and prioritize your comfort and safety during these encounters. Start with simple acts of affection such as kissing, touching, and holding, gradually rebuilding physical safety and trust. 6. The Journey of Forgiveness Forgiveness is a non-linear process that should not be rushed. Pressuring oneself to forgive prematurely can lead to retracting forgiveness during moments of insecurity or vulnerability. Therapy can be instrumental in navigating this process and fostering forgiveness. Intentionally extending forgiveness and genuinely embracing it allows for true healing and forward movement. Seeking Professional Support in Miami Experiencing infidelity is a painful and bewildering ordeal. Seeking guidance from qualified and supportive therapists can make a significant difference. Individual counseling or couples therapy can help facilitate healing and rebuild trust after infidelity. At Love Discovery, our compassionate team is ready to provide the support you need. If you're ready to embark on a therapeutic journey to heal yourself and your relationship, call us at 305-605-LOVE (5683) or schedule an appointment with one of our therapists today. . We are dedicated to improving your mental health, enhancing your relationships, and supporting you through this challenging time. Remember, with commitment, dedication, and professional guidance, it is possible to rebuild intimacy, restore trust, and create a stronger, more fulfilling relationship after infidelity.

Conscious uncoupling is a transformative approach to ending a romantic relationship or marriage, allowing both parties to move forward positively and avoid unnecessary emotional trauma. This article unveils the essence of conscious uncoupling, guiding you through its principles and benefits. You'll learn how to navigate through this emotionally charged process while maintaining a sense of self-love and personal growth. Discover how embracing this paradigm shift can replace feelings of shame and regret with kindness, forgiveness, and wellbeing. What is Conscious Uncoupling? Conscious uncoupling is more than just a term coined to describe a mindful approach to separation. It’s a philosophy, a way of dissolving a relationship that doesn’t involve blame or negative emotions. Many might associate the phrase with celebrities like Gwyneth Paltrow, but it’s much more than a Hollywood buzzword. It's a strategy designed to minimize harm and stress while fostering personal growth and healing from a breakup. Defining Conscious Uncoupling Conscious uncoupling aims to redefine the way we perceive and handle the demise of a romantic relationship. This approach promotes acceptance and reflection, allowing individuals to adapt and let go of resentment and negative energy. It encourages couples to communicate amicably and participate actively in their healing process, turning a potentially traumatic experience into an opportunity for self-discovery and development. The Origins and Philosophy behind Conscious Uncoupling The concept of conscious uncoupling originated from a desire to replace the conventional, often contentious, paradigm of breakup and divorce with one of mutual respect and understanding. It revolves around the principles of kindness, forgiveness, and respect, allowing ex-partners to maintain their wellbeing and dignity intact. The philosophy behind conscious uncoupling is rooted in the belief that relationships are not just meant to satisfy our needs but also to challenge us and support our personal growth. It invites us to view the end of a relationship not as a breakdown but as a breakthrough, a chance to learn, grow, and develop a healthier relationship with oneself and others. Why is Conscious Uncoupling Important? In traditional breakups and divorces, negative emotions such as anger, hurt, and resentment often dominate the scene, leading to stressful and unhealthy outcomes for all parties involved. Conscious uncoupling serves as a sensible alternative, offering a pathway to navigate through these challenges with grace and wisdom. Preserving Emotional Wellbeing Conscious uncoupling is about preserving one's emotional wellbeing and minimizing harm. It is about taking responsibility for one’s feelings and behaviors and choosing to let go of blame, anger, and resentment. By embracing this approach, individuals can transform their pain into empowerment, ensuring their emotional wellbeing remains intact throughout the separation process. Creating Positive Patterns This approach also helps individuals to break free from negative patterns and create positive, lasting changes in their life. It allows ex-partners to reflect on their behavior, learn from their experiences, and build healthier, more fulfilling relationships in the future. By consciously uncoupling, individuals can generate happiness and satisfaction in their lives, paving the way for more mindful and meaningful connections. How to Navigate Conscious Uncoupling? Navigating conscious uncoupling involves embracing a set of principles and practices aimed at ensuring the process is conducted with mutual respect and understanding. It’s about maintaining one’s integrity and fostering a positive environment to support healing and personal growth. Embracing Acceptance and Reflection The first step in conscious uncoupling is acceptance. It is crucial to acknowledge the reality of the situation and to embrace the changes in your life. Reflecting on one’s feelings, expectations, and behaviors can reveal underlying patterns and provide insights into the dynamics of the relationship. Acceptance and reflection pave the way for healing and allow individuals to move forward with clarity and purpose. Conscious Uncoupling vs Traditional Breakup: What’s the Difference? Understanding the distinction between conscious uncoupling and traditional breakup is crucial for anyone looking to end their relationship mindfully. While traditional breakups often involve blame, conflict, and negative emotions, conscious uncoupling offers a more respectful and harmonious approach to separation. The Traditional Approach to Breakup Traditional breakups are often characterized by drama, hurt, and resentment. They can be emotionally draining and can lead to long-lasting trauma. The traditional approach tends to view the end of a relationship as a failure, filled with regret and shame, leaving individuals feeling vulnerable and broken. The Evolving Paradigm of Conscious Uncoupling Conscious uncoupling represents a paradigm shift in the way we view and handle the end of a relationship. It replaces negative emotions with kindness, forgiveness, and self-love, allowing individuals to leave the relationship with their dignity intact. This evolving paradigm encourages individuals to view the end of a relationship as an opportunity for learning and personal development, rather than a painful demise. The Benefits of Conscious Uncoupling Choosing to consciously uncouple provides numerous benefits, including the preservation of emotional wellbeing and the creation of positive life changes. It allows individuals to let go of anger and resentment and to embrace forgiveness and personal growth. Here are some key benefits of conscious uncoupling: Promotes Personal Growth: It encourages individuals to reflect on their behaviors and to learn from their experiences. Reduces Conflict and Stress: It minimizes the negative energy and drama typically associated with traditional breakups. Fosters Mutual Respect and Understanding: It emphasizes kindness and respect, allowing ex-partners to maintain a positive relationship post-separation. Implementing the Conscious Uncoupling Process Taking the conscious uncoupling approach means actively participating in creating a positive, respectful ending to a relationship. It’s about implementing strategies that support mutual growth and understanding, ensuring a smoother transition for everyone involved. Taking Responsibility and Letting Go One of the crucial steps in conscious uncoupling is taking responsibility for one’s actions and feelings. It’s about acknowledging one’s role in the relationship and its breakdown. By doing so, individuals can let go of blame and resentment, focusing instead on healing and personal development. Letting go of negative emotions allows for a deeper exploration of one’s needs, desires, and behaviors, paving the way for healthier relationships in the future. Adapting and Embracing Personal Growth Adapting to the changes that come with the end of a relationship can be challenging, but it’s an essential part of the conscious uncoupling process. Embracing personal growth enables individuals to redefine their lives and relationships, fostering a sense of empowerment and self-love. It allows them to learn from their experiences, to develop new skills and insights, and to build more fulfilling, meaningful connections. Seeking Professional Guidance Seeking professional guidance can be invaluable during the conscious uncoupling process. A qualified coach or therapistcan provide the support, insights, and strategies needed to navigate through this transition effectively. At Love Discovery Institute, we specialize in supporting individuals and couples through conscious uncoupling, helping them to heal, grow, and develop healthier relationships. Conclusion: Transforming Separation into an Opportunity for Growth Conscious uncoupling is a transformative approach to ending a relationship that focuses on mutual respect, kindness, and personal growth. It offers a positive, empowering alternative to the pain and conflict often associated with traditional breakups and divorces. By choosing to consciously uncouple, individuals can: Preserve their Emotional Wellbeing: Minimizing harm and maintaining one’s emotional integrity throughout the separation process. Develop Healthier Relationships: Learning from past experiences and building more fulfilling, meaningful connections. Foster Personal Growth and Self-Discovery: Reflecting on one’s needs, behaviors, and desires and embracing positive life changes. For more support and guidance on conscious uncoupling, or to explore our range of psychotherapy services, visit Love Discovery Institute or call us at 305-605-LOVE (5683). To book an appointment with our expert therapists and coaches, please click here.

Going back out into the world doesn’t have to be overwhelmingly stressful Key takeaways: Nearly half of American adults are experiencing pandemic-related re-entry anxiety Take baby steps when getting back into the swing of things The COVID-19 vaccines make interacting in society safer. Realize what you can and can’t control Do things you enjoy Mindfulness can help keep you in tune with your mental state Therapy can provide helpful coping methods to easy re-entry anxiety Though it’s fantastic news that COVID cases continue to decline and vaccines are widely available, some of us may be nervous about returning to life as we knew it. Some are anxious to resume regular activities like shopping, seeing a movie, or attending a concert; it might seem easier to just continue distancing from the external world. But, at some point, it is necessary to get back to living in society and doing enjoyable things. Humans are social creatures and even the most introverted of us still need social interaction on some level. It might take some of us longer than others to become comfortable with gatherings and in-person interactions again. Social anxiety has risen since the start of the pandemic. According to an American Psychological Association survey, nearly half of American adults are anxious about having face-to-face interactions right now. If you feel reluctant to revert back to doing things the way you did before the pandemic, we discuss six things you can do to help ease your re-entry anxiety. The trauma of living through a pandemic When the COVID-19 pandemic began, panic spread quickly. Some people started hoarding supplies while others went into denial. Soon, we were stuck mostly indoors, hoping we’d be safe from the life-threatening virus that had spread across continents without prejudice. Many of us experienced the pandemic, lockdowns, and social isolation as traumatic events. We were thrust into a new normal with little warning. And then, shortages of bottled water and essential household items made things more difficult. It was a new life stressor that few had experienced before. Combined with job losses, health woes, and economic uncertainty, many of us went into survival mode. So, now that we can see our friends in person and return to the office, it’s understandable that many of us are having trouble transitioning out of survival mode and re-entering society. It is possible, however, and we will show you how by giving six tips below. 1. Take it slow Just like we had to adjust to lockdowns and social distancing, we now have to adjust to in-person interactions. Allow yourself an adjustment period. If you have to return to the office, talk to your employer about adopting a hybrid work schedule. Be it temporary or permanent, limiting the amount of time you’re required to interact with others in the office can help reduce uneasy feelings. Take baby steps into resuming previous activities that required face-to-face contact. If your social group has begun regularly hanging out again in person, discuss alternating between in-person and virtual meetings until everyone is fully comfortable gathering in group settings. 2. Get vaccinated We now have three highly effective vaccines that have helped reduce the spread of the COVID-19 virus, the severity of symptoms, and the possibility of death. People who are vaccinated are much less likely to contract the virus and if they do, they are much less likely to have a severe outcome. If you haven’t been vaccinated against the virus, doing so will benefit you and your loved ones. It should help ease your re-entry anxiety, as well, since you will be much more protected. 3. Control what you can and let go of the rest When we feel like we have a lack of control, it causes anxiety. We worry about what “bad” thing might happen since we can’t control it. That’s why it’s important to acknowledge the things we can control and the things we can’t. For example, we can control our behavior. We can’t control the behavior of others. If others’ behavior causes us to feel uncomfortable, we can choose to remove ourselves from the situations that provoke these feelings. Moreover, we can’t control much of what happens to others, like our loved ones. However, we can accept this fact and choose to let go of our attempts to control them. 4. Do things you enjoy Doing activities you find enjoyable can help alleviate the stress you may be feeling about getting back out there. If spending time with family members or friends is something you like, this is can help motivate you to take the next step into re-entering the outside world. It might help to make a list of things you enjoy doing that require you to leave the house. Things like seeing a movie, having drinks with a group of friends, even taking part in a roller-skating group or a cosplay event can help you get excited about being rejoining society. You can also wear a well-fitted face mask and continue to distance while partaking in activities. 5. Practice mindfulness It’s easy for us to get so involved with our daily activities that we neglect to take care of ourselves. Take some time to check in with yourself periodically. A regular self-check-in can help you recognize when you need to take a break. One way to do that is to take a minute to notice how you’re feeling in the moment. How do you feel mentally, physically, and emotionally? When you’re in tune with yourself, you learn to recognize your triggers and how your body responds to them. If you find yourself feeling anxious about being in a space with more people than you’re comfortable with, then check in to decide if you should stay or leave. Setting aside a few minutes to be in the moment or focus on your breathing can also help you when you feel anxious in your surroundings. 6. Consider seeing a therapist Last year, one in six people saw a therapist for the first time. When the lockdowns lifted and more people were out and about, some of us began to feel a sense of anxiety about our safety and that of our families and friends. Living through a once-in-a-lifetime pandemic is a life transition most of us didn’t expect to experience. And, the mixed messaging about how to keep ourselves and our loved ones safe created more uncertainty, which led to more people seeking help to manage the anxiety. It can be hard for us to express what we’re feeling because we don’t know what’s causing us to feel a certain way and why. Therapy is a productive way for people to learn how to identify the emotions they’re feeling and the causes. Re-entry anxiety is a new concern for many of us, and talking to someone can help. Our therapists at Love Discovery are here to help you learn ways to cope with this and other mental health concerns. Call 786.571.4636 for a free consultation. Schedule an appointment today with one of our licensed therapists and get back to life as you knew it.