6 Ways to Handle Persistent Grief and Loss


A cartoon image of a woman with blue hair on a blue background cries as she learns how to deal with persistent grief and loss

Dealing with grief is a non-linear, multiple-stage process

Key takeaways:

  • Allow yourself grace as you go through the stages of grief.

  • Know that grief is a non-linear and personal process.

  • Acknowledge and accept that you’re feeling pain.

  • Surround yourself with a support system.

  • Engage in self-care and take care of your physical needs.

  • Recognize if you may have developed complicated grief and strongly consider seeking help.

  • Contemplate therapy to help you grieve your loss.

Grief is one of the most powerful, painful, and disruptive emotions we can experience. The pain, especially when fresh, can be debilitating, piercing, and overwhelming. And although the hurt can be devastating, it’s actually a normal and healthy response to a loss.

It’s important to remember that there’s no “right” way to handle grief and loss. Although there are stages of grief that everyone moves through, grief is a unique and personal non-linear process that will look different for everyone.

While certain people may live relatively well managing their distress, grief and loss can send others into a spiraling wreck. We talk about causes of grief, coping, and how therapy can help.

Any kind of loss can spark grief


When people think of grief, most think of a loss due to death. This is certainly true but grief can present itself anytime you have any loss. Here are some of the many things that may cause you to feel the pain of grief:

  • Death of a pet

  • Loss of health

  • Job loss

  • Divorce or the end of a romantic relationship

  • Losing a platonic friendship