Updated: Sep 23, 2019
In our last post, we discussed the idea of our subconscious brain influencing our thoughts and behavior throughout our day. This affects many things, including our relationships with our partners.
Ultimately, we have been living on survival. Our brains—through no fault of our own—have been affecting our relationships, placing some of them on life support.
Through our limbic systems and prefrontal cortexes, we, at times, embrace our unmet survival needs when we are being verbally attacked by a partner, for instance.
We are all acting in certain ways that create a distinct outcome. Unfortunately for us, we are not even aware of what our behavior looks like, much less where our deep-rooted feelings are coming from that keep us continuing that behavior. This cycle is creating an outcome which we may or may not favor.
Considering all of this, it’s important to analyze the role of mental health in influencing our behavior.
Until we explore a thought and analyze our belief system, we are running on a subconscious cycle that just recreates past patterns. We don’t just feel stuck—we’re actually stuck.
To get out of this rut, we must embrace mental health. Mental health looks at this phenomenon so that we can let go of our limiting belief system. It helps us heal the emotions that need to be healed. Mental health work can be intensely profound and sometimes difficult for the client that you’re helping. That said, it can be liberating for the client and can provide you with a feeling of immense satisfaction.
We can think about it this way:
Our car needs continual maintenance. Most (if not all of us) go to the gym for physical fitness. Perhaps some of us go to church for spiritual connection.
So considering all of this, what makes us think that we don’t need to explore and take care of our beliefs and emotions?
Mental health is the connection between the thoughts and emotions. We run our lives on this truth, whether we are aware of it or not. Therefore, why not at least become aware so that we can acquire the tools to improve our mental health?
By embracing our mental health, we can understand how our beliefs are working so that we can manage our emotions and behavior when encountering difficult situations and create a desirable outcome. Learning to love yourself is the process of learning to value, care and love yourself unconditionally not expectations.
Co-founder of the Love Discovery Institute, Dr. Carolina Pataky is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and Certified Sex Therapist . Recognized as one of South Florida’s leading authorities on intimacy, relationships and self-discovery. Her focus is to give individuals and couples of any sexual preference the tools to learn how to love themselves unconditionally, receive love, and create fulfilling and joyful relationships that will last a lifetime. Through private sessions, couples intensives and luxury retreats, she provides individual and couples coaching sessions, sex therapy, and psychotherapy practices that support clients through the journey of finding the right path to healthy love.Visit her website: www.lovediscovery.org