Why We Are Still Living On Survival

Updated: Sep 23, 2019

When we are living and governed by our subconscious, we are not aware that our subconscious is subtly influencing and controlling our thoughts and behavior. This leads to curious behavior.

We keep asking why. We keep repeating the same actions over and over and expecting different results (ironically, Albert Einstein reportedly called this the definition of insanity). We keep allowing our partner to trigger us and, once we get mad or upset, we consequently blame them for how we feel. We do not know how to escape from a negative relationship cycle because no one has ever taught us how.

It’s no wonder that 50 percent of marriages end in divorce (and granted, this doesn’t mean the other 50 percent are happy. It just means they haven’t taken that final step and legally terminated their marriage).

It’s troubling, but all of these observations lead to this conclusion:

We have been living on survival and our relationships have been barely surviving.

This idea of living on survival isn’t just relevant to our relationships. It extends to every other area of our lives.

Two-way communication is governed by the limbic system and the prefrontal cortex. Based on what happens in the limbic system, we generate recorded images. Those recorded images are then interpreted by our prefrontal cortexes. If we have an image that matches a past “trauma,” that image emerges subconsciously and we impulsively react to that image, not recognizing that the image was picked up by the old brain (the limbic system). The prefrontal cortex then says to itself, “I don’t understand.”

Here are some additional facts about the limbic system and prefrontal cortex.

Limbic System:

The limbic system is our caveman, reptilian old brain. It is essentially the most primitive part of ourselves. It is the part of the brain that deals with survival, pleasure, and basic emotion.

Our amygdala’s are located in our limbic systems and our automatic nervous systems regulate things like hunger, pulse, blood pressure, breathing and arousal in response to emotional circumstances. It further regulates pain, levels of pleasure, and sexual satisfaction.