At this point we've all heard about self-care and how important it is. But as we know it’s a lot easier said than done. Finding “me-time” can seem like the most daunting task, sometimes even adding additional stress. We search for that “perfect” balance of caring for ourselves whilst also caring for others and our daily responsibilities. But it doesn’t have to be perfect. The balance doesn’t have to be perfect. It doesn’t have to fit into anyone else’s idea of what self-care
By: Janet Bayramyan Since we have been in quarantine for several months now, it’s difficult to understand what our “normal” will look like as many states enter into phases of opening. As counties and states begin to open up, we may experience a duality of emotions. On the one hand, we may be excited that our favorite restaurants and beaches are opening up. On the other hand, we may also feel concerned about our safety and health with establishments opening up too soon. We may
Like traditional dating, modern love has both its highs and lows. There are many ways in which modern love varies from conventional dating. Younger generations are becoming more open about their sexuality with every day that passes. Unlike traditional love, modern love is not subject to the confines of gender, race and age. Same-sex romantic relationships are becoming more popular among millennials day after day. It is also not uncommon for younger people to engage in casual
Your breath can transform your life experiences. Now, more importantly, manipulation of your breath can also transform your life experiences. This was my experience with Dr. Carolina Pataky with her breathwork workshop that was facilitated. I am someone that every time I try a therapeutic modality, I am open minded, but also a skeptic. I had the idea that through breathing I would feel more relaxed, but I actually found that I was thrust to a journey through an altered state,
You're Way More Than Your Past Trauma This horrific thing happened to you. And now what? Questions are swirling through your mindframe. Or maybe instead you're trying to shut it down, pretending like it never happened. That's okay too. That's our brains going into survival mode, protecting itself from the foul and possibly seductive experience of sexual abuse and assault. Having to survive is incredibly adaptive, but it's not healthy to live that way forever. If you've experi
I find that many people will say no, and that's okay, because for some, long distance isn't for them. However, I will say that long distance relationships can work out, with one caveat. Eventually, THE DISTANCE WILL HAVE TO END. Long distance relationships can work with the intention to eventually end the distance. To make it work, you'll need be committed, have a plan for when things get hard, and be very honest with yourself and your partner.
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EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Can moving eyes back and forth really heal trauma? I have to say, that as a therapist provider as well as consumer in my own therapy, I was the biggest EMDR skeptic and non-believer in this intervention. I thought, “How can moving eyes back and forth really heal past trauma?” After several weekend long training of EMDR, as well as my own personal therapy with EMDR, I can confidently say that I am a big believer in this i
The benefits of practicing mindfulness impact every aspect of life including relationships. Relationships come with different levels of stress and anxiety. Practicing mindfulness can actually help whether it be with family, friends, or even just for yourself. Due to the complexity of relationships, navigating them takes work. This can leave many of us feeling like we do not understand the other person no matter how hard we try. We tend to struggle with this dis-connect at a s
The so-called “Man Code” is a collection of unspoken limiting rules that men often learn at a young age. Sometimes, in order to demonstrate their personal strength to others, men follow the Man Code and avoid what scares or hurts them. That being said, following this Man Code causes men to become disconnected not only from themselves but from others. In reality, this so-called Man Code is just repression of who men really are. The Man Code is just one socially-defined regulat
When we are living and governed by our subconscious, we are not aware that our subconscious is subtly influencing and controlling our thoughts and behavior. This leads to curious behavior. We keep asking why. We keep repeating the same actions over and over and expecting different results (ironically, Albert Einstein reportedly called this the definition of insanity). We keep allowing our partner to trigger us and, once we get mad or upset, we consequently blame them for how
How are you defining your manhood? How is this definition affecting you, your relationships and your sex life?
As I work with many men in my practice, I commonly observe feelings of inadequacy that stem from not being connected to their true sense of self. Part of this comes from trying to find this “self” by examining external factors they expect will bring them happiness, joy, and love. I see this in both career-oriented men who achieve success but still feel a void in
As the year ends and resolutions start up with the New Year, many singles find themselves hopeful that perhaps this will be the year in which they finally meet someone special. Many singles are ready to start putting themselves out into the dating world again. How you approach finding a partner and, more importantly, how you engage in relationships, can increase your successes in dating and make a huge difference the outcome of any relationship you start. With the advent of e