Recovering from infidelity is difficult but not impossible. It requires hard-work and commitment. Both you and your partner need to be honest with yourselves and with one another. If you were involved in the cheating, have you made the decision of whether you want to leave your partner? If you haven’t then maybe you aren't ready or willing to restore your primary relationship. If you were betrayed, you may not believe that the relationship is salvageable and that's okay. It m
By: Dr. Carolina Pataky Infidelity is often the most devastating fractures of a relationship. Often the spouse who was cheated on cannot help but blame themselves. Despite evidence that shows you are not the reason for the infidelity, you may find it difficult to believe. There are two options when infidelity is discovered, leave or stay. If you choose to stay in the relationship, then much work needs to be done to find Healing from the affair. Many couples find that through
by: Dr. Carolina Pataky If we look around us, we are surrounded by boundaries and our lives are centered on them. They are mainly there to remind us that our right to interfere here stops. A healthy relationship is all about acknowledging and respecting the boundaries between you and your partner. It is a like a property line between you and your partner stretching indefinitely. It basically, defines where you and your partner should start and stop. These are natural and cruc
By: Janet Bayramyan Since we have been in quarantine for several months now, it’s difficult to understand what our “normal” will look like as many states enter into phases of opening. As counties and states begin to open up, we may experience a duality of emotions. On the one hand, we may be excited that our favorite restaurants and beaches are opening up. On the other hand, we may also feel concerned about our safety and health with establishments opening up too soon. We may
A break-up of a relationship can be one of the most traumatic experiences in life. Because only you are experiencing the loss, it can be difficult to feel others are relating to your hurt even though they are sympathetic to your pain. Your grief may feel minimized because so many have experienced similar loss. This should not take away from the healing process you need to work through in order to prepare for the future. Take time to reflect
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Thanks to dating apps and the continuous access to just about anyone, finding a date really isn’t all that complex. Relationships are inevitable. However, it’s that deep, meaningful relationship that tends to fall into the complex barrel. We find ourselves dealing with the wrong ones so many times, that we tend to have dwindling hopes of finding those deeper meaningful relationships. What if we can create purpose, meaning and happiness that lasts in our relationships? We can.
Like traditional dating, modern love has both its highs and lows. There are many ways in which modern love varies from conventional dating. Younger generations are becoming more open about their sexuality with every day that passes. Unlike traditional love, modern love is not subject to the confines of gender, race and age. Same-sex romantic relationships are becoming more popular among millennials day after day. It is also not uncommon for younger people to engage in casual
Your breath can transform your life experiences. Now, more importantly, manipulation of your breath can also transform your life experiences. This was my experience with Dr. Carolina Pataky with her breathwork workshop that was facilitated. I am someone that every time I try a therapeutic modality, I am open minded, but also a skeptic. I had the idea that through breathing I would feel more relaxed, but I actually found that I was thrust to a journey through an altered state,
You're Way More Than Your Past Trauma This horrific thing happened to you. And now what? Questions are swirling through your mindframe. Or maybe instead you're trying to shut it down, pretending like it never happened. That's okay too. That's our brains going into survival mode, protecting itself from the foul and possibly seductive experience of sexual abuse and assault. Having to survive is incredibly adaptive, but it's not healthy to live that way forever. If you've experi
I find that many people will say no, and that's okay, because for some, long distance isn't for them. However, I will say that long distance relationships can work out, with one caveat. Eventually, THE DISTANCE WILL HAVE TO END. Long distance relationships can work with the intention to eventually end the distance. To make it work, you'll need be committed, have a plan for when things get hard, and be very honest with yourself and your partner.
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EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Can moving eyes back and forth really heal trauma? I have to say, that as a therapist provider as well as consumer in my own therapy, I was the biggest EMDR skeptic and non-believer in this intervention. I thought, “How can moving eyes back and forth really heal past trauma?” After several weekend long training of EMDR, as well as my own personal therapy with EMDR, I can confidently say that I am a big believer in this i