At this point we've all heard about self-care and how important it is. But as we know it’s a lot easier said than done. Finding “me-time” can seem like the most daunting task, sometimes even adding additional stress. We search for that “perfect” balance of caring for ourselves whilst also caring for others and our daily responsibilities. But it doesn’t have to be perfect. The balance doesn’t have to be perfect. It doesn’t have to fit into anyone else’s idea of what self-care
Like traditional dating, modern love has both its highs and lows. There are many ways in which modern love varies from conventional dating. Younger generations are becoming more open about their sexuality with every day that passes. Unlike traditional love, modern love is not subject to the confines of gender, race and age. Same-sex romantic relationships are becoming more popular among millennials day after day. It is also not uncommon for younger people to engage in casual
by: Katie Jackson ...and the secret to making it mind-blowing. Here, Ocean Drive chats with the Carillon Miami Wellness Resort's resident relationship and intimacy expert on how to have a healthy, happy and fufiling sex life. Some people come to Miami for the beaches. Others come for the nightlife. And then there are the visitors who flock to the city in search of self-improvement. At the Carillon Miami Wellness Resort, there are experts who can jump-start a metabolism and co
Your breath can transform your life experiences. Now, more importantly, manipulation of your breath can also transform your life experiences. This was my experience with Dr. Carolina Pataky with her breathwork workshop that was facilitated. I am someone that every time I try a therapeutic modality, I am open minded, but also a skeptic. I had the idea that through breathing I would feel more relaxed, but I actually found that I was thrust to a journey through an altered state,
You're Way More Than Your Past Trauma This horrific thing happened to you. And now what? Questions are swirling through your mindframe. Or maybe instead you're trying to shut it down, pretending like it never happened. That's okay too. That's our brains going into survival mode, protecting itself from the foul and possibly seductive experience of sexual abuse and assault. Having to survive is incredibly adaptive, but it's not healthy to live that way forever. If you've experi
I find that many people will say no, and that's okay, because for some, long distance isn't for them. However, I will say that long distance relationships can work out, with one caveat. Eventually, THE DISTANCE WILL HAVE TO END. Long distance relationships can work with the intention to eventually end the distance. To make it work, you'll need be committed, have a plan for when things get hard, and be very honest with yourself and your partner.
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Your relationship is the garden you’ve chosen to create with another human being—are you taking care of it? When you’re having problems in your relationship or things just don’t feel quite right, it’s easy to point the finger at your partner. You can clearly see and feel how they are hurting you or failing to show up for you, and you want them to do better. It’s fine to express your feelings to them in a loving and gentle way, but make sure you also hold up a mirror to your o
EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Can moving eyes back and forth really heal trauma? I have to say, that as a therapist provider as well as consumer in my own therapy, I was the biggest EMDR skeptic and non-believer in this intervention. I thought, “How can moving eyes back and forth really heal past trauma?” After several weekend long training of EMDR, as well as my own personal therapy with EMDR, I can confidently say that I am a big believer in this i
The benefits of practicing mindfulness impact every aspect of life including relationships. Relationships come with different levels of stress and anxiety. Practicing mindfulness can actually help whether it be with family, friends, or even just for yourself. Due to the complexity of relationships, navigating them takes work. This can leave many of us feeling like we do not understand the other person no matter how hard we try. We tend to struggle with this dis-connect at a s
Contrary to the popular societal belief that defines intimacy as a sense of physical and emotional closeness and connection with another human being, I have come to believe that intimacy is in fact, first and foremost, a process of profound self-discovery and deep understanding of our own psyche and soul. The lack of intimacy is at the heart of our addictions, fears, and many of our emotional pains. Whether we can recognize them or not, we all carry a level of discomfort with
Valentine’s Day is a remembrance of the love and value we feel for our significant others. As we raise awestruck eyebrows in wonder of this, we often forget that love for others begins with the ability to love and value ourselves. In light of the aforementioned, the following questions beg to be answered: What do you value most? Is it your career, profession or business, or even your bank account? How do you measure your worth? Is it defined by how much you can provide, or w
The holiday period is a great time to reflect on your relationship. This is because during the season, we often take time to look back on the previous or past years. Sometimes couples get so caught up during the year with financial, work, or family stress related issues that arise that they forget that the foundation of the family is built on the connection of the couple. If you are looking for ways to improve your relationship, the good news is that it is very possible to en
How are you defining your manhood? How is this definition affecting you, your relationships and your sex life?
As I work with many men in my practice, I commonly observe feelings of inadequacy that stem from not being connected to their true sense of self. Part of this comes from trying to find this “self” by examining external factors they expect will bring them happiness, joy, and love. I see this in both career-oriented men who achieve success but still feel a void in